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I agree, Sam, but I also think that the whole post was a prank. You'll note that our oh-so-sincere OP has disappeared.
no Lamaga it is not a prank...I wish it was.
I have had a busy morning at work and was just now able to log on.
the fact that many of you think this a prank and I am a troll makes me realize this situation is even more FU*&#D up than I realized..
I assure you this a real situation in a real home, and I am trying to fix it.
I feel I have it stopped through threats and demands, but that does not make for a very happy marriage.
We have Twin sons who are almost 15 and a 12 year old son.
My issue is my wife has no problem being naked around them.
She is creating massive mental issues in her own sons. This is going to screw them up for the rest of their lives, and they will probably develop severe sex dysfunction issues if not self-hatred issues if not gotta-go-out-and-hurt-a-woman kind of issues. Get them to a therapist now!
Maybe if we were some nomadic tribe 100 years ago where everyone had to share everything and we hadn't become so puritan, but today, she is harming them.
Why are YOU not putting your foot down?
Finally, get HER to a therapist to find out why she has to bust her butt like this to be so attractive; what's missing in HER that she has to be a Barbie doll?
sun, I agree that you should show her this post and the other one.
But be prepared, she is going to go ballistic. Why? Because she knows full well the little game she has been playing, and she is not going to be happy to be called on it.
I'm sorry for the situation you face, but no, you cannot let this go on any longer. Good luck.
She is creating massive mental issues in her own sons. This is going to screw them up for the rest of their lives, and they will probably develop severe sex dysfunction issues if not self-hatred issues if not gotta-go-out-and-hurt-a-woman kind of issues. Get them to a therapist now!
Maybe if we were some nomadic tribe 100 years ago where everyone had to share everything and we hadn't become so puritan, but today, she is harming them.
Finally, get HER to a therapist to find out why she has to bust her butt like this to be so attractive; what's missing in HER that she has to be a Barbie doll?
The more I think about this, the more I find your wife's reaction odd. Rather than taking on board what you're telling her, she's choosing to dispute what you're telling her and continue what she's doing. Why? What's the pay-off for her? Why can't she shower alone? Why is it important to her to go bra-less in front of your children's friends? None of this makes sense. The solution to this whole debate is very simple. All she needs to do is cover up her body around her adolescent and teenage son. Why does she find this such a big deal?
Teenage boys don't need to see their mother in an unclothed state. Hell, truth be known, they don't want to see her in that unclothed state. And she sure as hell doesn't need to be gawking at her sons nudity~save that experience for their potential girlfriends and wives!
From personal experience, had I ever seen my mother in that state, I would have literally headed for the hills~ and then had a heart to heart with my dad about it.
Provided that this is, indeed, real, that family had better quickly do something about it pronto! They're literally sitting on a potential powder keg!
for the sake of the post this has to be said, this post is nothing without pics
i am guilty of walking around in a slip that is see through
see i was brought up in a family where nakedness wasn't ever frowned upon. I saw my mother often naked as a teenager, older brothers and i had brothers old enough to be my parent, never really thought about it, it was a very healthy loving home.
now being around teenage boys friends wouldn't be right but her own children fine.
she doesn't see herself as sexual to your boys friends, you need to correct her on this.
I shower with my 3 year old son every now and then (maybe once or twice a month) and my husband thinks that this is outrageously inappropriate...
You're situation is far far worse and your wife is being severely inappropriate. The boys, as well as your wife, are all far to old to be walking around naked infringed of each other, much less showering together.
Even if nudity was accepted in a certain culture... I'm not aware of one that is ok with teenage boys showering naked with their mother.... heck in other cultures... the boys are considered men at that age... and like i said.. I don't think they find that appropriate...
Heck... with our culture.. sure it's fine if they are like infants to.. maybe... age 4.... if that... but teens? I agree with the rest in that it's sick, twisted, and she is possibly getting off on it. No way in hell is she that naive to know it isn't wrong... if she is... she clearly needs to see a psychiatrist. My son is two and I don't parade around in front of HIM naked.. once he started being able to notice the difference ... or rather showing that he started noticing the difference.. yep certainly covered up.
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I wouldn't want to shower with my 15 year old son...or 12 year old son.
Sick.
I'd sure hope so! Or that_man that is your husband would be getting you some richly needed psychiatric help just prior to their hauling you down to the local pokee!
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