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My wife is 43 with a fantastic body for her age 5ft 6 130lbs 34D (augmented) and works out every day and goes to the tanning booth regularly, all things I am very gratefull for.
We have Twin sons who are almost 15 and a 12 year old son.
My issue is my wife has no problem being naked around them.
We have a large master bathroom with a big walk in shower with two showerheads, she often showers with one of our boys in the morning. every school morning they all 4 are in the master bath, naked getting ready and showering etc.
This has gone on since they were toddlers,I saw nothing wrong with it at that time, but they are young men now
she says they continue doing it because our bathroom is so big and theirs is too small, and this way there is only one bathroom to have to clean.
She puts her makeup on, naked in front of a floor to ceiling mirrored closet door sitting on the floor "indian style" legs open fully exposing her open "lady parts" (which she keeps completely shaved) in the mirror as the boys are showering shaving etc. she says she stays naked while putting her makeup on to give her body lotion time to dry.
If one or more of our boys walk in our room as she is about to change she just strips naked and changes while having a conversation with them.
We often have 14 and 15 year old high school freshman boys spend the night sometimes as many as 5 or six.
my wife goes braless around the house in a form fitting tshirt to be comfortable. she says she feels no need to put a bra on when they have friends over,as I said she is a D cup and has very long protruding nipples, not to be graphic but when she goes braless it is very obvious...
she also execises every night in our home gym in tight grey lycra short shorts and a white sportsbra, after excercising she has no problem wearing that around the house in front of our boys and their friends.
I have tried to tell her that I think our boys are too old now to be around her when she is nude, and I don't think it is healthy for them.
She says she is their mother, there is nothing wrong with it and I am a "pervert" for thinking it is inappropriate.
she says the boys friends also see her as a "mom" and don't give her attire around them a second thought.
I would really like some advise and opinions on this and weather it is healthy or not.....
The yoga outfit and the going braless around the house is nothing at all to get worked up about IMO. Lots of women wear tight fitting sportswear all the time and for years going braless hasn't been a big deal. However being naked in front of her teenage sons let alone showering in front of them is sick gross and a lot of other adjectives that could make some people on this forum blush. Why in the heck would she deem that appropriate. That should have stopped years ago. That is so wrong on so many levels.
Huh, my post disappeared. Just as well, since it was very OTT.
Why are you allowing this? This is clearly inappropriate behavior, it could get CPS called to your house, and most disturbingly, it appears that your wife is getting some kind of sick thrill out of this.
Oh this is SO NOT HEALTHY! All nakedness in front of your children should STOP. Also, She should put on a bra when company is over, it's just the decent thing to do, especially when company is random teen boys. I can't imagine the kind of comments your sons get from their peers.
Unless of course, you live in a hippie commune, then disregard what I've said.
Oh this is SO NOT HEALTHY! All nakedness in front of your children should STOP. Also, She should put on a bra when company is over, it's just the decent thing to do, especially when company is random teen boys. I can't imagine the kind of comments your sons get from their peers.
Unless of course, you live in a hippie commune, then disregard what I've said.
no we live in a very small conservative town, and I am a football and baseball coach to all of these young men....
I 100% guarantee you that the only kind of mom they think of her as is a MILF.[/QUOTE]
I really think part of it for her, at least with my sons friends, is the whole"MILF" culture that is so prevalent today with middle age women,
The need to feel you still "got it" in the sex appeal department.
I 100% guarantee you that the only kind of mom they think of her as is a MILF.
I really think part of it for her, at least with my sons friends, is the whole"MILF" culture that is so prevalent today with middle age women,
The need to feel you still "got it" in the sex appeal department.[/QUOTE]
So, is that what you plan to tell the School Board when they call you on the carpet about this? Because it's not a matter of if, it's a matter of when.
Also, I'm no prude. A parent doesn't need to shriek and dive under the nearest towel if a teen child walks in on them naked. But, that's a long ways away from showering with them and sitting around nude with them.
Yea. It's gross. If my ex or husband was that way around our daughters, I would be putting the kabosh on that and if they didn't stop, they wouldn't be around my kids. Why? Because it's subjecting your children to something they don't need to be around. Your boys are conflicted. And it's sick.
I really think part of it for her, at least with my sons friends, is the whole"MILF" culture that is so prevalent today with middle age women,
The need to feel you still "got it" in the sex appeal department.
Oh that's total crap. I look damn good for my age (I'm 46, thin, tan, work out, etc.) but I feel no need to shower with my son nor walk around in sexy attire for his friends.
Re wearing skimpy clothes in front of the teen friends, this is transparently showing off - looking for that high of being a hot mom. We all knew someone like this growing up. Let me guess, she likes to be a "cool" mom.
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