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My teenage son and I got on this discussion the other day so I was courious for your opinion.
He was telling me about kids at school 14-16 year olds who have tattoos. My H and I are competely against it until he's 18 and then that is his choice and his money.
I just don't understand parents of teenagers allowing this. Are we just old fashioned?
I am 18 and you aren't old fashioned at all. From what I've seen the parents that allow their kids to get tattoos aren't really parents to their children (Please do not take offense to this). The other kids that get tattoos get them against their parents will. If you want him to wait than he definitely should. You are the parent and he is the child. It is not unreasonable.
We definately will not let him get a tattoo but his one friend who is a neighbor got one for his 16th birthday. His parents took him and was fine with it and it's not a small tattoo either.
The other boys parents have always done things we wouldn't allow.
My son knew he wouldn't be allow but I was just courious what you all thought.
i defo say no to a tattoo until my sons can legally say yes for themselves. i stil might try and deter them then and asking them to review their situation at the time.
my eldest wanted his ear pearced for a long time and i said no repeatedly . im glad i didnt back down .
I do not have boys, and my 15 yo daughter thinks tatto's are only cool if they are nice little ones, like a butterfly, on the ankle or something like that. I definitely say NO to any of those. I have always tell my girls that if they know that what they want will be a hard YES, then to not even bother, if they want something they can get it when they are out of my house and making their own money. You are the parent and until thye live under you roof they have to follow your rules, period.
I remember when my nephew left for college at age of 18, he went and got his ear pierce and by the time my brother in law and his wife so it, it was to late, but they lmost die, got so mad at him for doing, but he was already 18 and they knew they could not stop him.
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Re: kids and tattoo's
Not old fashioned a all. It’s a fad that will be with them for life unless they go through the painful removal process. Our 19 year old was talking about getting one. We told him we’d pay him $1000 if he graduated from college without one. His response was “Cool, that will get me a really good one”
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I have 2 that I can not see as they are on my back and did not have 1 till I was 30.
Tell your Son it's something that will be there for a long time... Having it removed it way more painfull then getting it.
I never thought I would get one but got a steam train, then another on both shoulders..... I thought for 2 years and decided to go for it...
I know people got have tats also and are not happy, and some just can't be covered up with another tat...You are not being old fashion.... your looking out for the best interests of your Son
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"We told him we’d pay him $1000 if he graduated from college without one. His response was “Cool, that will get me a really good one”
ROFLMAO Now that's a smart kid LOL I am dying here laughing so hard LOL...
i've got 2. the 1st 1 i got when i was 19. the second 1 i got 2 months ago, 11 yrs after the 1st. my parents were PISSED when they saw my 1st 1. my dad because he hates tats, my mom coz it wasn't small and feminine like the other girls. but they couldn't do anything about it coz i was of age. my ex didn't like my tat, but i got it before i met him so there wasn't anything he could do about it. don't know if he saw my 2nd 1. not hiding it, but i'm not whipping it out to show him either (they're both on my ankles). i'm going to get more when i get the money
if my daughter wants 1, she'll have to wait till she's 18. the ex will be dead against it. there'll be nothing he can do though if she gets 1 coz she'll be of age.
Another angle that you might try is explain that in getting a tattoo your child is making himself out to be just another mindless sheep following the herd. Isn't the whole tattoo / body piercing thing played out by now??? It was kind of edgy back in the eightys and early nineties but really.....when grandma and grandpa are sporting arm bands and **** stamps it's way over. Ditto Harley Davidsons.
Getting a tat when still a teen is just downright stupid.
I had one at age 16 and it was really dumb. I regretted it all my life, until I turned 45 when I had a cover up tat put over it. Something more in tune with who I was... I'm happy with it now but should have waited until at leadt 30 to get one as
they
are permanent !
My kids can have all the temporary tattoos they want
I love that answer!
I saw a news story about some new ink that is being developed. The ink does everything the current stuff does with one great added feature. If you hit it with the right kind of laser light some chemical bond is broken and it completely dissolves in a few weeks. It seemed like the perfect answer to all that tattoo regret and a way to reuse your canvas too!
kids and tattoo's
