It's frustrating to watch my friend parent her child
I do not know how to detach from this. My friend, one whom I will be friends with forever, because she lives with my husband's best friend, does not parent her child. She befriends him, then after weeks of his horrible behavior, she blows up at him.
Every time they go out, she buys him something. She says it's okay, because it's his money. But she makes sure he always has money. She never makes him understand that when you go to a ball game, you're there just to watch the game.
He's 9, he acts six. He's well behaved, if she's not around. Everyone has pointed out that he acts different when she's around. She doesn't change a thing.
He whines, he talks incessantly, he acts helpless. I know he can do things, because he does them when she's not around. But she does everything for him. He has never done a chore, he doesn't even clean up his own plate after dinner!
She spends money like crazy. She has a decent job, makes over $60,000 a year. Her parents pay her living expenses, while she pays off her credit cards from her former marriage. She isn't on a fast plan to pay them off, because she keeps at least $300 a week to blow on crap shopping.
She's really nice though, and fun. But this parenting thing, and her sponging off her parents, drives me nuts. Her boyfriend is extremely passive and he says he's glad their finances are separate. He doesn't actively parent the child, because he just moved in, and she has told him it's not his place.
I'm frustrated. I know everyone gets to choose how they raise their children. But I can't sit and watch without getting frustrated. She also thinks that everyone loves him like she does, and has no problems letting him bother everyone else. She just laughs as he clearly gets on other people's nerves.
I can only avoid the child so much. Please tell me how to cope when I can't avoid him. Thank you.