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Old 08-09-2012, 09:42 AM   #1 (permalink)
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when they come and stay at our house.

I find this weird. I could understand if we were slobs and didn't ever wash sheets or change beds or something, but that isn't the case.

Does anyone else do this??
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Never heard of that before! Does she live far away? Packing sheets for a trip is pretty weird, but maybe she's got skin allergies to detergent? I wouldn't take it personally - just write it off as one of her quirks. If she is trying to take a shot at your housekeeping, don't let her see it bugs you.
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when they come and stay at our house.

I find this weird. I could understand if we were slobs and didn't ever wash sheets or change beds or something, but that isn't the case.

Does anyone else do this??
Mine has done that. She also brings food and other things that she prefers.

Actually though...I think bringing your own sheets is taking it a bit too far and kind of insulting. What's funny is she's a clean freak and does that stuff but she smokes cigarettes and reeks of it all the time.
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They live 160 km away only. She says it's so I don't have to wash sheets
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I'd be happy if my overnight guests would do that. And not expect me to wash sheets, make the bed, then unmake it and wash them again when they leave. Hell yeah! That's a good problem to have! I hate making the bed.

Now, if she brings her own, and wants you to make the bed, and then wash them when she leaves, I'd have a problem with that.
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What's funny is she's a clean freak and does that stuff but she smokes cigarettes and reeks of it all the time.
This is her too!!

I am not overly bothered by it, I just find it weird and wondered if anyone else does it.
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There are 5 of us in my family so yes I brought extra sheets with me when we visited my IL's. It truly was because I didn't want to burden my MIL with extra laundry. I used the sheets that were already on the guest bed but bought sheets for the sofa sleeper and air mattresses. She then only has to wash one set of sheets.

I was only trying to be nice.
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Yeah, seems kind of weird. Maybe she saw a stain on one of your sheets during a past visit?
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This is her too!!

I am not overly bothered by it, I just find it weird and wondered if anyone else does it.
Does she/would she take her own sheets when staying in a hotel room? Hmm....

Mine will go outside to smoke then come in and wash her hands, use hand gel and chew a mint. But there's no hiding it. It stinks. As a former smoker (6 yeas next month), it's a good reminder to me to stay quit.
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I have no idea if she takes them to a hotel. I should try to find out somehow.

I see there are other people who do it too. Maybe it isn't as weird as I thought it was. My hubby thinks it's weird too so she must have started doing it since he left home.
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I guess some people view sheets as personal items.
Could be she is uncomfortable using items that have been exposed to naked bodies and bodily fluids, or having someone else handle sheets that have been exposed to her own.
What about towels, does she bring those as well?
Some people can only sleep well in their own sheets, it's a sensitivity/feel thing.
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I would love if my mom did it. Then I wouldn't have to do any laundry when she left.
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They live 160 km away only. She says it's so I don't have to wash sheets
As weird as it sounds, I think this could be the case. I seem to remember my late mother thinking it was polite to pack towels for a visit for this very reason. It could have its roots in a generation that only had twin-tub washing machines.
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