Re: Should I do a paternity test
When a child loses a parent, after years of attachment to the parent it causes the child permanent emotional harm. No child should suffer this.
This is so true! @ 14, my H was told by his mom during one of her frequent angry outbursts, that the man he'd called 'dad' was not his bio dad. H still went to live with his 'dad' but the relationship from that point on was forever changed for my H. I found H's bio dad a few years ago, they did do paternity testing, and are now building their relationship.
This kind of emotional manipulation, whether to an adult or child, is just plain evil. What I can tell you is this: stick by your son's side; continue loving him; in every sense of the word, DNA aside, you are his Dad. And when all is said and done, the relationship that will suffer most is the one stirring the pot; in your case, that would be your exwife.
Please know you and your son are in my prayers. Hope he's feeling better soon.
Courage: is not having the strength to go on……..It is going on when you don’t have the strength