Should I do a paternity test
I have a 6 year old child and I share custody with my ex wife for 4 years now. I have OCD and 2 years ago in a fight my ex wife said the child is not yours. She said it in another fight and when I asked whose is he she said IDK and she said other time he is not mine he is hers. 2x total she said it. Then another time when she wad calm I brought it up and she said go ahead do DNA test but the child is yours, then said look at him, he looks just like you, why do you need test? After those 2 years we had bigger fights but she never mentioned it.
My mother said that in our culture women tend to say such stuff to make their ex angry and the child has many of my features. My shrink thinks it is unlikely to be true
However, since I met my ex wife I had urological issues and more often than not I couldnt perform and many times couldnt ejaculate. I cant remember how my performance was in mid 2006 when the child was concieved.
My ex never went out with friends or was home alone but she did work in a pizza place that year from 4pm to 4am on weekends. There were also other people all women except delivery drivers working with her, people from our culture and often her sister as well. I doubt she cheated on me but nothing is guaranteed.
Now here is the problem. If I do the test, I will feel happy if it says I am bio dad. But my OCD maybe would make me question the accuracy if an online test.
If the test show I am not the dad then that is the problem. I dont wanna lose the child and I wanna be his dad regardless but should the test show I am not bio dad then that would kill me. Then I would fear when will my ex find out, how to tell the kid etc etc
Should I do that test or just forget about it????
PS. Ex and I are going to litigate because there has been some change in circumstances but nothing to do with paternity. I am also worried she may some day say YOU ARE NOT THE FATHER but if it was so I guess shr would do it by now in 4 years.
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Last edited by BHF; 12-31-2012 at 02:02 AM.