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Old 01-20-2013, 07:38 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Sigh.... why would parents let their child fart in a kitchen around others when everyone is eating diner? Why not take the child out of the room and punish them and give them a time out instead of just saying their name as if to say "don't do that." Why do parents let their child be so gross? I REALLY DON'T UNDERSTAND!!! This happened. I am upset at the parents that they wouldn't quickly correct their child.

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Old 01-20-2013, 08:09 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Sigh.... why would parents let their child fart in a kitchen around others when everyone is eating diner? Why not take the child out of the room and punish them and give them a time out instead of just saying their name as if to say "don't do that." Why do parents let their child be so gross? I REALLY DON'T UNDERSTAND!!! This happened. I am upset at the parents that they wouldn't quickly correct their child.
I don't know about punishing the child, but I would certainly make the child apologize for being impolite (depending on its age) and send it to the bathroom.
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Old 01-20-2013, 10:34 AM   #3 (permalink)
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How old is the child?

Someone that's 0-3's bowels can't really be controlled. Someone that's 4 to 6 would need to be reminded of table manners. A child 6+ though should definitely not be farting on purpose at the dinner table/kitchen and should be apologizing/saying excuse me if it was an accident.

I know it sounds prudish/stuck up but I can't stand farting. I'm just a very visual person so I think way too much about where things are coming from... being that visual has put me off of milk and eggs before (thinking waaaay too much about the source). Combining that with the smell when someone toots, and it just grosses me out. My oldest can clear a room so I tell him to leave the room to fart lol. That led to some embarrassing situations in the beginning with him yelling, "Mom, I've got to fart, where's the bathroom?!" in front of other people/at other people's houses when he was younger... he knows better now though.

ETA: I agree not to punish for farting though. I don't punish my kid(s) for tooting. I know it's natural but I have taught my oldest to leave the room to do it because I don't want to smell it. If he farts by accident, he says excuse me and it's over with.

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Old 01-20-2013, 10:56 AM   #4 (permalink)
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I would never punish my child for farting

My kids know to leave when in public or with company...or to say excuse me if it happens. Even my 4 year old knows to leave. Of course, she announces it ..."BE RIGHT BACK! I GOTTA FART!" but still...she's learning.

When we're at home, as a family, no one cares. We still say excuse me, but gawd...lighten up.
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Old 01-20-2013, 12:03 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Farting is a natural part of...being a living being. I couldn't imagine punishing my children for doing it. Imagine how that makes them view their own bodies.

Instead of being a big deal, just let them say "Excuse me" and be done with it.

Doing it on purpose, on the other hand, should be dealt with as any other impolite table behavior, but the act of farting itself should not be a source of shame or dismay - we all do it.
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To punish a child for a natural function of the body can actually lead to them holding it in until they end up in the ER with pain so bad because they are keeping the air in their bodies for fear it is wrong to let it out.......I know someone who's child held it in for months because their Grandma shamed him into it by punishing him for farting around her at all.

My children know to leave the room and if it comes of a sudden then they say, "excuse me". Same thing for belching. Speaking of farting it was really cute once when I was bathing my daughter and she farted. The bubbles made her laugh so hard she kept trying to fart in the tub to make more. I was laughing too but worried she would push out more then air into her bath so the bath had to be over lol
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My friend thinks her kids are cute when they do all sorts of socially unacceptable (to me, yes she can have her own POV) things.

She laughs. It isn't funny at all, her kids have no manners and most people cringe at their behaviour.
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How old is this child?
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Old 01-20-2013, 06:10 PM   #9 (permalink)
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What if the child a special need,would you react the same?? And he/she has to be punished and apologize?
I think it all depends on maturity some kids are more matured and have good manners even at 3 years while teen age might not.parents could teach and be agood roll model but bottom line personalty is the winner.
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The child is 11 years old. This child was making a point of bending over and farting in front of everyone at the table. I was really upset. I still am.
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If an 11 year old is bending over and farting in front of everyone at the table you have good cause to be upset.

Was this some kinds of extended family dinner? What is your relationship to his child.
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The child is 11 years old. This child was making a point of bending over and farting in front of everyone at the table. I was really upset. I still am.
That's a completely different story. That is just plain bad manners and something you might expect from a 3-4 year old; it should absolutely be dealt with and not allowed to continue.
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For me I just excuse myself and go to the toilet and pump out all the gas. I expect my daughter to do the same. I don't see myself punishing my daughter just because she farts. I'll take her to the toilet myself.
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We are having the same issue, our 6 yr olds are farting and burping all over the place. It's the age for it, toilet humour right now is hilarious to them.

However we allways tell them to leave the table, and have have been talking to them about manners at the table etc.

I wouldn't punish either, just get serious about it, so they know it's not appropriate.
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I agree to not punish the farting. Instead, in an 11 year old it is appropriate to punish the public display of farting and making other body noises.
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