I am at my breaking point with Step Daughter
I have been married to DH for 6 months, together almost 2 years, lived together the whole time. He has a daughter from his first marriage who is 12. She used to only come over on weekends, until her mom moved to another state. She has been living with us full time since September of last year. My issue is DH parents her out of guilt. If there is a rule in place she doesn't like she will tell him she hates him / hates it at our house, and he'll give in. My breaking point was yesterday, I turned the internet off while we were at work since she was home all day and she sent him a text message "You can't trust me with the internet? I hate hate hate it here !!!" What happens? He APOLOGIZES to her !!!!! Are you KIDDING ME? NO, a 12 year old should not have access to the full internet when there is no adult around, although DH believes that DSD is an angel and will never get into any trouble. And NO I can’t trust you since you lied straight to my face about being up till 3am on video chat with random people ! I really want to say “if you hate it so much here…. Then go back to your moms house and let the internet raise you !” She hates our house so much because we do have rules and regulations, her mom has none. However, DH doesn’t help me enforce these rules, and always gives in to her ! I don't want her to have full access to the internet, and he won't put any block on it. He also doesn't believe in checking her Facebook/Skype/Text messages. I believe she can have full privacy when she's 18. At 12 years old she does not need to be given freedom like an adult. It’s putting a lot of strain on my marriage. I’m to the point where I want nothing to do with her. Any advice ?!