Husband's request - please weigh in
I would appreciate a little third party, healthy feedback. Here is the situation:
My husband was fired from his high level job a little over a year ago. He was let go due to ongoing conflict with the chairman of the board. My husband was really devestated, but is now with another company and is trying to move on. Still feels wounded, though.
My brother is in a similar field of business, and was fired from his job about a year ago. Despite many interviews, he has not yet regained employment, and is definitely anxious about his financial situation and the state of the economy. He is divorced, and would prefer not to move away from his children.
Recently, my brother was asked to interview for my husband's old job. My husband is feeling like he just could not handle having my brother do this and would like me to tell my brother to back off. "Right or wrong, this is the way I feel and your brother needs to respect that."
My first gut feeling was that my husband should take the higher road and give his blessing to my brother to proceed with the interview process. After all, we are talking about my brother's financial/career situation, not an ex-girlfriend. Historically, I have been a self-sacrificer and made decisions to the benefit of the other person, even if I take a hit in doing so. This is the way I have always been, and it has definitely caused conflict in my marriage. My husband has historically been on the other end of the spectrum - more self centered, making decisions that preserve his own interests, even if it means that the other person takes the hit.
What do you think is the right and healthy thing to do here?
Much, much thanks...