Re: Trouble with parents
My mother is definitely not afraid of me. I dont understand any of your reasons.
If she was afraid to me, she wouldnt pack her bags. She did pack her bags, and she left them in the car so I wouldnt find out up until it was too late.
That only shows she has no respect towards me, which Im literally furious about.
Yes she is my mother, that doesnt mean I will nod my head to anything she does or says, I dont care what others think about it. Im 30 years old, and if I cant be honest and show my feelings in front of my mom - and vice versa - then I guess Ill act on emotion.
I wont let her do to me what she did to my father.
And yes, it IS all of my business no matter what you guys say to me.
Ever since I was 15 I was bound to listen my mother talking crap about my father (in a passive agressive way) and listen to my father cry about it to me. I was the messenger, middleman to both of them.
So, if they both took the liberty to use me for those purposes as a kid, I will definitely, despite the cost, be up front and honest to them.
And I dont buy into that "oh she was your mother you lived under her roof". Oh so that makes it right? Well...ok. Now I dont live under her roof.
I wont never ever let her run my life in a way she thinks its supposed to run. She made all those plans to her own accord and acted surprised when I found out about it. Funny how that coincides with years and years of the same MO with my father. But - when she needs someone to help her in her business, my naive father is there. In all other situations, social, family related, somehow my father always gets forgotten.
And Im supposed to be the good son and smile to all of it now, 5 years later, 10 years later, in front of my kids maybe etc.
Um, no but thank you anyway.
This whole situation is a result of my mother not being able to utter one sentence to her son. Its an insult to me, no matter how you slice it.
Not being able to say "hey son, Im coming over for a sleepover" (yet pack yourself for the very event) is pathetic.