about a year ago my sister and her boyfriend (who she'd only known two months) decided to quit their jobs and come out my way. she was tired of living in her state and wanted to try something new. mind you, she quit her job after she bought a new car and had absolutely no savings. she barely had enough gas money to get here.
so we let them stay here for three months. i have a one bedroom, 600 sq. ft. apartment with a dog and cat. we paid to take them places, paid for their food on occasion, drove them up to the state they want to go to, and i gave her my phone for three months. on top of this, i dont work. my h works and pays for everything. this was a huge burden for him. we also loaned them a lot of money so they could get started in the new state.
and throughout all this i find out she was talking badly about my H and I behind our backs. she was calling us greedy, mean, hurtful people. and she did a few other devious things.
and why is she angry??? because they had to go hungry and because i told her she had to leave after the third month. i told her when she moved in that my H would not be paying for their food. of course we did pay initially, but then i told her she'd have to get food stamps or something.
she made so many stupid choices. she lost her phone, her car, and did go hungry. we loaned them our car, my phone, our place, money, and other things. she has done so many things that are just so stupid, and yet she's angry at me, and my H because she had to go hungry at times.
and, to top it off, now she's pregnant. dumb. she can barely feed herself. her boyfriend doesnt work.
anyway, im so frustrated by it all. i wanted to be able to be there for her because she's having her baby, but after all of this, i just dont know if that's possible. she's so rude and immature every time i dont do something she thinks i should, and i know after she has her baby its just going to get worse.
ive never been the type to just cut ties, but it feels like i need to. its just so sad.
so we let them stay here for three months. i have a one bedroom, 600 sq. ft. apartment with a dog and cat. we paid to take them places, paid for their food on occasion, drove them up to the state they want to go to, and i gave her my phone for three months. on top of this, i dont work. my h works and pays for everything. this was a huge burden for him. we also loaned them a lot of money so they could get started in the new state.
and throughout all this i find out she was talking badly about my H and I behind our backs. she was calling us greedy, mean, hurtful people. and she did a few other devious things.
and why is she angry??? because they had to go hungry and because i told her she had to leave after the third month. i told her when she moved in that my H would not be paying for their food. of course we did pay initially, but then i told her she'd have to get food stamps or something.
she made so many stupid choices. she lost her phone, her car, and did go hungry. we loaned them our car, my phone, our place, money, and other things. she has done so many things that are just so stupid, and yet she's angry at me, and my H because she had to go hungry at times.
and, to top it off, now she's pregnant. dumb. she can barely feed herself. her boyfriend doesnt work.
anyway, im so frustrated by it all. i wanted to be able to be there for her because she's having her baby, but after all of this, i just dont know if that's possible. she's so rude and immature every time i dont do something she thinks i should, and i know after she has her baby its just going to get worse.
ive never been the type to just cut ties, but it feels like i need to. its just so sad.