Why do they not want you to report it? What excuse did they give you? Could it be that he is saying is the daycare and it is really the home? Could it be that your child is telling you is the daycare because he is scared that if he acused the mom he will be in deep s.....? Sorry for being so pessimistic, but my daughter is going thru hell right now, because of being abuse by her school teacher, and I have learn to be very weary and suspicious of these things. Thank goodnes the school took the case seriously and called CPs and police right there, when my D told them.
Please call the police and CPS and have them investigate the daycare, they will go and talk to the kids. Have them do it without warning, whatever your STBX and her mom say it is not right to keep it quiet, you would want her to pull him out, so make the call today. If not taken care of now, this will bring major issues later in live, he needs to see a therapist even when he is so young. If you do not want them to know it was you, because of legal issues or whatever, then make the call anonymous, tell them that you do not want anybody to know who made the call, just report it to CPS and tell them that you have seen/heard of physical abuse in the daycare, they will know exactly what to do.
Please take my advice to heart, whatever your issues are with them do not matter, your son should be your priority. If they do not want to report it, that is call negligence and CPS can take the child away from their custody. Go get a notebook, document everything he said, dates, times and every behaviour, bruises, if there is physical and visible damage take pictures and take him to the ER right away they will have to report it. Record it so CPS will know that you are a concern parent. Do not ripe pages if you make a mistake , scratch it and continue on when finish go and have it notarized. Do it right now.
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I am sorry about your daughter. I'm glad the proper intervention was done on time.
See, I took our child to the doctor's appointment. She came too even though she didn't say a word because whatever docotr asks she looks at me. (But I don't wanna "paint" my child's mother) Now that was just a day before I was preparing to talk to the owner of the daycare. Her mom came with her. Now watch this: To make it an easy thing she asked my son, did daddy beat you? He said no, he yelled at me. My son is 2.5 y.o. She wasn't happy with that so she said to me, forget daycare, the kid lies. He told me that you and your brother hit him. Then she realized what she had said and continued, he says I hit him too but it is not true. So forget the daycare.
So their excuse is: Child is lying. But why do they not want to me to report? That's a very good question. It is not hard to guess but I will PM you.
Then last night my STBX called me. I said don't register the baby anymore there. She said she has to, she is looking for job plus her uncle is coming from Europe.
I told her, what would social services say if they knew that neither of us are working now and the baby is in daycare? (Well I meant judge but I said CSS because we are trying to avoid the word "court")
She was quiet. No answer.
Then she says to me she want to tell me something. She said: You know that he is lying 100% because he doesn't like it there. I said no. She said let me finish: So she goes: He told me today that you kissed another woman
(how low). Then she said I know you wouldn't do it in front of him.
(following her mum's footsteps). she says: If CPS find nothing is wrong in the daycare, they will investigate his family
(true I believe) and you know that there is no single parent in this world that doesn't hit their disobedient child from time to time.
(What?, I'll pretend she said "spank", maybe she meant it cuz she spoke in English and her Eng. is limited even though we both speak another same language.) Also said, the child can fall down and get a bruise and they may think we did it.
Then she went on how the child likes it in there, learns Eng., the staff is nice etc. On the end she said "I am afraid to lose my child to social child protection services". Yet she put him there again.
So it figures why they are against it doesn't it. I can't see any other valid reason. She was over protective mother during the marriage, not now.