08-30-2009, 08:07 AM
Join Date: May 2009
| | Re: the saga continues
Don't know if I can.
I grew up very differently than my husbands ex is raising her kids.
They are coming down with a massive sense of entitlement
and the girl also has very annoying drama and is abusive to us.
I ponder the whole thing and my light of glimmer right now is small but his daughter has been so badly behaved and intended to influict so much damage on her father that she has distanced herself from him ( an dme, the glimmer is she is not in our lives with her abusive nasty attitude right now due to her fits and demands) , which is good for me too as she has also been abusive to me, slight but then... she did what she could.
It really is more about her attitude which I seriously don't get all the unrealisitc thinking, more at her age... as she is an adult now
( still living with her mother, being spoiled with things she does not work for or deserve and also has men living with her at her mothers)
His son although not a behavioral problem... gets rewarded for things he fails at...
he barely passes in school ( passes by the skin of his teeth) and he gets a new car. He cannot spell at a 2nd grade level and is more or less unmotivated to do any better or try to do well... and seems illiterate for the most part......
his life is like this:
He wants something, his mother buys it for him
( expensive electronic things and also a new car well before he could even drive it)
I don't get it or the sense of entitlement they have... but more I dont get this type of parenting he gets from his mother and there is nothing we can do about it as they live with her. We have no control what she does with them due to this and their ages.
(20 and 16)
What is to become of the situation because they may not know this but my husband and I have the same feelings and we are both not that way, were not raised that way, don't understand how they are being raised...
but we do know its creating monsters, this bribery parenting of their mothers and I seriously fear what may happen to US as a result...
or what is going on with them as to what they expect or think they have rights to FROM US !
Last edited by preso; 08-30-2009 at 08:11 AM.