08-06-2010, 01:18 PM
Join Date: Aug 2010
| | Re: finding out husband has multiple children with other women
Oh my god, I googled this topic because I have a similar issue. I love my fiance with my heart and soul. He is 11 years older and I knew of his 3 children he told me about from his prior relationship. He was stationed in GA in the Army back in the 90s. Long story short, I came across paperwork that indicated another child - an 18 year old girl. I confronted him about it. He cried, broke down and tells me that he never met the girl. That he left the girls mother when she was pregnant and when he received word his daughter was born and he went to find her, the mother refused and said shed never allow him to meet her. It took many conversations and much healing to get past this. A year later (now) his daughter reaches out to him on Facebook. It really jolted me but I tried to deal with it. I come across a FB private msg to him -- his daughter asks if she has siblings....he proceeds to name 5 other children total!!! He apparently has an additional 2 daughters in GA that he never met either! When I confront him about it, he breaks down and admits he hasn't met these daughters either. He was a different person back then. He knew if he told me of his messed up past, I never would've accepted him.
I asked him to move out while I collect my thoughts but I am absolutely devastated. I have no idea what to do! My heart loves him still and these children are older (21, 19, and 18) but omg he left 3 children in GA. I am so lost.