[amberlynn]

Originally Posted by swedish

Good luck, Amberlynn...I'm glad you have a little time to settle in before your MIL joins you.

She's on oxygen and she smokes?! That baffles me!

thanks! yeah she smokes and shes on oxygen... the drs ask her if shes tryin to blow herself up... but shes hard headed, cant tell her nothin... she doesnt smoke around it, she smokes outside...but its bound to happen..sooner or later..she's gonna go boom... wont stop her from smokin tho lol.. sadly enough

[amberlynn]

So, heres an update for those thats been followin this thread, my MIL moved in about a week ago. She was home with her mom when she passed away and couldnt bare staying there along.

So far things are going okay, shes helpped around the house, doing little things here and there to keep her mind at ease. She continues to say that she feels like she imposing on us, which is totally not the case.

My son keeps her on her toys, follows her all over the house, if she so much as gets outta his site, he hunts her down. I cant say I know what shes going thru, cause I dont, but I feel so sorry for her, her mom is all she had, and now shes gone, wish there was a way we could help her thru this, and show her shes not imposing.

We have tried to make her feel at home, decorated the fire place mantel with christmas stockings, even put one up for her, but she just sits and stares off into space, like shes high or something... Im at a lost as to help her feel more at home.. I know her mom would rather see her here with her son, then in the projects on the bad side of town...any advice on how to help her feel more at home and not like shes imposing?

[swedish]

Hi Amberlynn,

I am sure she is still shocked and mourning her mom's death and that's probably taking more of a toll than the move to your house. If she is doing little things around the house, just thank her for helping out so she feels less of an imposition. Probably the more she is able to do, the less she will dwell on her mom's passing.