Yep - talk about disgusting - I was all proud of myself. I had set up the laptop with a separate limited account for my ten year old daughter today. Her home page was a kids National Geographic site. She was all happy and learning things. I had the antivirus on parental control. I even went in restricted access to most chat worlds, etc. I went in to the aol "free" parental controls and it wanted a credit card number - so I backed off that and set it up with high levels of everything (at least it appeared safe to me).
Together we read and even signed the Internet Safetly form. I was certain she could behave with supervision sooo close. I gave her a little password and sat with her for about a half hour while she enjoyed the links off the National Geographic site.
I went in the other room to do some things, my husband was sitting 5 feet from her watching football. I heard a "ding" from the other room and asked him to go see what site she was on. It wasn't the sound of her little game she was playing. (She is a "gifted" brilliant child, your all-American Girl scout with the blonde hair, blue eyes, dimples, the whole works.) She quickly closed the program on him and he said, "she shut it off whatever it was". I immediately went over and took the laptop and began my research.
She went running and crying hysterical into the bathroom. I knew there was a problem. I first went into the history and found that in that small period of time she had been on several sites I hadn't put in the restricted area. One called moovee or something, a club cooie site and some others. The last one was spank something. I was like....OK, lets go to the sites and see what they are.
Well....the first two were 3d chat worlds, and she had made a horrible user ID, it actually contained the word sex and the F bomb in the user ID and they actually let her have that name!
I was already sick to my stomach - when I clicked on the last site. My stomach turned when I saw the heading something about a mom having sex with her son and the f word was there. I showed it to my husband, it was a video that automatically played. There were all kinds of pop up horrible sex things on the right. We were totally grossed out even for the few seconds we saw and I closed the laptop trying to hold in the tears welling up in my eyes. Our daughter had just watched sex in the most disgusting of levels.
She had still been crying and throwing a fit - full well knowing I was on to her. It didn't make it any better. Keeping her off the internet for life won't fix this one. I'm thoroughly disgusted this crap is readily available to our kids. I mean - Geesh, can't they make it so that crap is available to over 18 people and verify it just as we did to get into this forum?? How on earth is it legal for a ten year old to just click on a website and see incestual videos???? I don't even want to know what else is out there.
Why can't the internet be monitored better and why do so many blame the parents? I mean we can't be stuck to them all the time, but we can forbid any access to the net at all and maybe just go back to board games. I literally thought I was setting up a controlled atmosphere to help my little girl learn some new things on the internet.
My heart broke when I saw what my little girl saw; it's like a violation of some type - that should not be accessible by any means to our children.
Apparently I didn't download enough protective software or change all the settings in the computer - well whatever I didn't do ..I just want to make you all aware that the problem is real and it is just as hard to keep it out of our pc's as it is a virus.
She said it just popped up when she was on one of those 3d virtual worlds and she clicked on it. She said it was gross and she thought someone should report it...but then again... She was smart enough to turn the volume down while the video was playing and she also made that horrible user ID. She is 10!
I don't know if enough church or psychiatry can help with this one but I sure pray something works. She is banned from all computers for a very very long time. I just don't know what to say to her now.
Together we read and even signed the Internet Safetly form. I was certain she could behave with supervision sooo close. I gave her a little password and sat with her for about a half hour while she enjoyed the links off the National Geographic site.
I went in the other room to do some things, my husband was sitting 5 feet from her watching football. I heard a "ding" from the other room and asked him to go see what site she was on. It wasn't the sound of her little game she was playing. (She is a "gifted" brilliant child, your all-American Girl scout with the blonde hair, blue eyes, dimples, the whole works.) She quickly closed the program on him and he said, "she shut it off whatever it was". I immediately went over and took the laptop and began my research.
She went running and crying hysterical into the bathroom. I knew there was a problem. I first went into the history and found that in that small period of time she had been on several sites I hadn't put in the restricted area. One called moovee or something, a club cooie site and some others. The last one was spank something. I was like....OK, lets go to the sites and see what they are.
Well....the first two were 3d chat worlds, and she had made a horrible user ID, it actually contained the word sex and the F bomb in the user ID and they actually let her have that name!
I was already sick to my stomach - when I clicked on the last site. My stomach turned when I saw the heading something about a mom having sex with her son and the f word was there. I showed it to my husband, it was a video that automatically played. There were all kinds of pop up horrible sex things on the right. We were totally grossed out even for the few seconds we saw and I closed the laptop trying to hold in the tears welling up in my eyes. Our daughter had just watched sex in the most disgusting of levels.
She had still been crying and throwing a fit - full well knowing I was on to her. It didn't make it any better. Keeping her off the internet for life won't fix this one. I'm thoroughly disgusted this crap is readily available to our kids. I mean - Geesh, can't they make it so that crap is available to over 18 people and verify it just as we did to get into this forum?? How on earth is it legal for a ten year old to just click on a website and see incestual videos???? I don't even want to know what else is out there.
Why can't the internet be monitored better and why do so many blame the parents? I mean we can't be stuck to them all the time, but we can forbid any access to the net at all and maybe just go back to board games. I literally thought I was setting up a controlled atmosphere to help my little girl learn some new things on the internet.
My heart broke when I saw what my little girl saw; it's like a violation of some type - that should not be accessible by any means to our children.
Apparently I didn't download enough protective software or change all the settings in the computer - well whatever I didn't do ..I just want to make you all aware that the problem is real and it is just as hard to keep it out of our pc's as it is a virus.
She said it just popped up when she was on one of those 3d virtual worlds and she clicked on it. She said it was gross and she thought someone should report it...but then again... She was smart enough to turn the volume down while the video was playing and she also made that horrible user ID. She is 10!
I don't know if enough church or psychiatry can help with this one but I sure pray something works. She is banned from all computers for a very very long time. I just don't know what to say to her now.