11-16-2009, 10:46 AM
Join Date: Oct 2008
| | Re: should the first family join the new family for Christmas?
Do you have children who aren't out of school yet? And are you talking about not allowing his older children to come as well? I can 'kind of' understand the ex-wife - but if they are on good terms then why is it a bad thing for her to spend part of Christmas with their kids - especially if they are kids under 18. I do mean part - not there from sunup til the kids go to bed. Maybe you invite her to lunch?
I don't understand if you don't want his kids there (no matter the age) - you are their stepmom now. And when you married him - you got a package and that package includes the kids, ex-wife and even the ex-wife's parents in relation to the kids). One lesson you'll need to learn quick - don't cause a wedge between him and his kids - it will backfire bad on you!
Similar situation I had a 2nd cousin who's exwife came to the big family christmas (cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents) until her boys were in college.