Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: Southern California
Re: Family wants us to raise our nephew
I was in the same exact position you are in when I first got married. My husband's sister lost custody of her children and my husband's family was pushing for us to adopt her daughter. My husband loved this little girl, and was all over the idea. I ended up putting my foot down and telling my husband that we couldn't, and it did cause a rift between me and his family (his mother, specifically, although it's gotten better). Heck, it caused a rift between myself and my husband for a while; hopefully you and your spouse are on the same page so you won't have to go through that heartache.
I just said no. When asked, I politely explained my situation (for us, it was that we were newlyweds and living overseas). If they press, "I'm sorry, no, we can't". If they continue to press, leave.