01-14-2010, 04:46 PM
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: United States
| | Re: Dan's side: 2nd marriage housing expense conflict
I am male 47 - married 3 kids.
If you rented out your house - and then the 2 of you rented a place - are you saying that the cost of a rental/utilities/etc would be more then $800/month. Because remember - she would only be responsible for half. If you could rent a comparable place together for $800/month including utilities then your request for $400 is fair. If a comparable place would only cost $600 - then $300/month from her is fair.
Do each of you pay half of all the other bills? Or maybe - does each of you buy all of your own stuff including your own food?
Are you actually willing to do that? Meaning are you willing to rent out your home and move into a rental with her?
Originally Posted by Linda3775
Linda and I met at a single's dance. Both of us had been single for 10 years. I called Linda for a date that was accepted. On the 1st date I was disappointed to learn Linda was a smoker. Linda indicated she wanted to quit so we dated again. On the 3rd date we both indicated to each other we were looking for a life long partner. In an attempt to be up front I indicated I had 3 items or needs I was looking for in a mate. I wanted a non-smoker, a Christian and I wanted to live in the house I owned. With these guidelines in place we continued to date and eventually married.
Our problems is finances. Linda has her own revocable living trust (I am not a part of) and I have my own revocable living trust (she is not a part of). Linda owns 9 rental units and her home that she moved from which she rents (mostly debt free). I own my home and 4 rental units (mostly debt free).
We are both retired.
Linda's portfolio is larger than mine. My portfolio was larger than Linda's, but remodeling my home ($55,000) before we moved in (my cost) and with a down stock market, my portfolio became smaller, but both are OK.
Both Linda and I pay our own maintenance cost on our properties (nothing is shared).
1.) I am asking Linda to share the living cost of the home we live in. 1/2 of the cost is $240.00 per month (includes taxes, insurance, utilities etc.).
Is this right?
2.) I am also asking Linda to share $160.00 per month of the profits she makes from her 10 rental units.
Is this right?
My thinking being, should I decide to rent my home and pocket the profits, which would be a minimum of $4,500.00/year. We would then have to rent or buy something together which would cost us much more the $400.00 per month that I am asking Linda to share.
3.) I know it appears I, or we, are putting finances ahead of our love for one another. I do not feel this is the case. I love Linda. I try to do favors for her on her rentals, I wash my own clothes and I clean the kitchen every morning. I also help with the cooking. I feel the request I am making for her to share is fair and honest.
Am I right or wrong?
It would be nice if some men would respond. Linda put her side of the problem on the forum (Posted 11-8-09), only women responded.
Please respond. Thanks.