Live below your means - Page 5 - Talk About Marriage
Financial Problems in Marriage When financial times are tough, it adds to the stress we deal with on a daily basis. This section is for talking about how financial problems affect our relationships and ways to cope.

User Tag List

 74Likes
Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Search this Thread
post #61 of 67 (permalink) Old 11-28-2015, 06:47 AM
jld
Forum Supporter
 
Join Date: Nov 2013
Location: USA
Posts: 18,822
Re: Live below your means

200k! That is very exciting, Asla! You and Akinaura should be very proud of yourselves!


One of the deepest feminine pleasures is when a man stands full, present, and unreactive in the midst of his woman's emotional storms. When he stays present with her, and loves her through the layers of wildness and closure, then she feels his trustability, and she can relax. -- David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man
jld is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
post #62 of 67 (permalink) Old 11-28-2015, 07:15 AM
Forum Supporter
 
arbitrator's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2012
Location: Central Texas/Brazos Valley
Posts: 11,102
Re: Live below your means

As my grandfather shared with me so many countless years ago while I was in the throes of my youth, money nor wealth should ever dictate one's true character or worth; that should be contained solely within the content of one's character and spirituality!

My gross adolescence and sheer lack of worldly understanding of such prohibited me from understanding what he said to me at the time, as I thought that perhaps he was either crazy i
or grossly misguided!

But in my post-formative years, I found that his words resoundingly struck so very true and I am now so thrilled to expound upon them as the given truth!

Thank you, Granddad, for having taught me that noblest and most loving message of life, although it took so many, many years to fully comprehend!

Posted via Mobile Device

"To love another person is to see the face of God!" - Jean Valjean from Les Miserables

My Story! http://talkaboutmarriage.com/going-t...andonment.html
arbitrator is online now  
post #63 of 67 (permalink) Old 11-28-2015, 07:58 AM
jld
Forum Supporter
 
Join Date: Nov 2013
Location: USA
Posts: 18,822
Re: Live below your means

You are such a gentleman, arb. And that really has nothing to do with money.

One of the deepest feminine pleasures is when a man stands full, present, and unreactive in the midst of his woman's emotional storms. When he stays present with her, and loves her through the layers of wildness and closure, then she feels his trustability, and she can relax. -- David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man
jld is offline  
 
post #64 of 67 (permalink) Old 11-28-2015, 08:01 AM
Member
 
As'laDain's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2011
Posts: 2,155
Re: Live below your means

Quote:
Originally Posted by jld View Post
200k! That is very exciting, Asla! You and Akinaura should be very proud of yourselves!
we are. though, im mostly just proud of akinaura. she never would have believed she could have accomplished what she has.

she once told me that she had already proven herself to be a financial liability, and wondered why i would ever be willing to hand over so much of our financial future to her. long story short, she got on board. it took some measures from my side that were a bit heavy handed, but as she started making sound financial decisions, i started giving her more control of finances. its how things should work.

im probably going to have to do the same with my parents. they are not used to thinking with their heads instead of their heart when it comes to money. but, we control the money, so they are probably going to have to learn the same way akinaura did. and akinaura will be there to teach them. so when they are successful, akinaura will be able to feel the same kind of pride i feel for her.

thinking about how far akinaura has come brings me a lot of joy, since i played a large part in helping her grow. i want her to be able to experience that kind of joy too. pride in herself, confidence in her abilities.

we still have a long way to go to achieve our goals. both financially and otherwise. we are building something big...

"The ecologist is continually having to look at the aspects of nature with which he is unfamiliar and perforce must be an amateur for much of his working time.... professionals may carp at omissions, misconstructions, or even downright errors in these pages. perhaps ultimately they may forgive them for the sake of the overall vision that only the amateur, or the ecologist, blithely sets out to experience."G. Evelyn Hutchinson
As'laDain is online now  
post #65 of 67 (permalink) Old 11-28-2015, 08:06 AM
jld
Forum Supporter
 
Join Date: Nov 2013
Location: USA
Posts: 18,822
Re: Live below your means

Quote:
Originally Posted by As'laDain View Post
we are. though, im mostly just proud of akinaura. she never would have believed she could have accomplished what she has.

she once told me that she had already proven herself to be a financial liability, and wondered why i would ever be willing to hand over so much of our financial future to her. long story short, she got on board. it took some measures from my side that were a bit heavy handed, but as she started making sound financial decisions, i started giving her more control of finances. its how things should work.

im probably going to have to do the same with my parents. they are not used to thinking with their heads instead of their heart when it comes to money. but, we control the money, so they are probably going to have to learn the same way akinaura did. and akinaura will be there to teach them. so when they are successful, akinaura will be able to feel the same kind of pride i feel for her.

thinking about how far akinaura has come brings me a lot of joy, since i played a large part in helping her grow. i want her to be able to experience that kind of joy too. pride in herself, confidence in her abilities.

we still have a long way to go to achieve our goals. both financially and otherwise. we are building something big...
She has definitely worked very hard. When Akinaura sets her mind to something, it is likely to happen!

One of the deepest feminine pleasures is when a man stands full, present, and unreactive in the midst of his woman's emotional storms. When he stays present with her, and loves her through the layers of wildness and closure, then she feels his trustability, and she can relax. -- David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man
jld is offline  
post #66 of 67 (permalink) Old 11-28-2015, 08:09 AM
Member
 
As'laDain's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2011
Posts: 2,155
Re: Live below your means

Quote:
Originally Posted by jld View Post
She has definitely worked very hard. When Akinaura sets her mind to something, it is likely to happen!
absolutely. and the best part is, she just keeps getting better and better.

with the right attitude, nothing is impossible.

"The ecologist is continually having to look at the aspects of nature with which he is unfamiliar and perforce must be an amateur for much of his working time.... professionals may carp at omissions, misconstructions, or even downright errors in these pages. perhaps ultimately they may forgive them for the sake of the overall vision that only the amateur, or the ecologist, blithely sets out to experience."G. Evelyn Hutchinson
As'laDain is online now  
post #67 of 67 (permalink) Old 11-28-2015, 08:12 AM
jld
Forum Supporter
 
Join Date: Nov 2013
Location: USA
Posts: 18,822
Re: Live below your means

Quote:
Originally Posted by As'laDain View Post
absolutely. and the best part is, she just keeps getting better and better.

with the right attitude, nothing is impossible.
I think the bolded is key.

One of the deepest feminine pleasures is when a man stands full, present, and unreactive in the midst of his woman's emotional storms. When he stays present with her, and loves her through the layers of wildness and closure, then she feels his trustability, and she can relax. -- David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man
jld is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Options

Register Now



In order to be able to post messages on Talk About Marriage, you must first register. Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.

Important! Your username will be visible to the public next to anything you post and could show up in search engines like Google. If you are concerned about anonymity, PLEASE choose a username that will not be recognizable to anyone you know.

User Name:
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.

Password:


Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.

Email Address:
OR

Log-in









Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.



Thread Tools Search this Thread
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search



Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Not sure what it means. magnus22001 General Relationship Discussion 46 05-07-2013 09:57 AM
What she means to me ferndog Going Through Divorce or Separation 2 07-01-2012 04:35 PM
I'm not sure what this means l2k General Relationship Discussion 2 01-22-2012 10:56 PM
What do you think this means? sadand Going Through Divorce or Separation 9 06-13-2011 11:14 PM

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

 
For the best viewing experience please update your browser to Google Chrome