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post #16 of 20 (permalink) Old 09-25-2015, 09:57 PM
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Re: Is my husband too cheap?

Must be nice to be able to afford all that...

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post #17 of 20 (permalink) Old 09-25-2015, 11:56 PM
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Re: Is my husband too cheap?

I agree that you need a category for "fun expenses". Just put $20 a week or whatever you can arrange into an envelope and when you have $100 (or whatever would be sufficient), go out and have a good time.

Always remember the LD motto: "Sex isn't important!!!"
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Beings myself & Husband are both savers.. we have a need to have a "ready stash" for any emergency, another used car.. a new roof - whatever comes down the road..

YET there is always a "healthy" balance in this.. You DO sound reasonable to me - as a wife wanting to also get out, have some FUN.. with his not being obsessed with every little dollar amount.. he seems very uptight.. and one day he may look back and realize this.. that he is sucking all the ZEST out of life's enjoyments.

Money is also there for us to ENJOY life...bring color & build memories you all cherish... not just for paying bills and staying afloat...

How to get him to see this.. I wonder if he is even open to family vacations??

In our marriage.. I was a little tighter over my husband..so I never had to deal with him worrying over money.. I was more guilty of this personally... but still I kept a logical mind...putting each situation into realistic perspective..

Can we spare this extra amount -for the pure enjoyment/ smiles on their faces and still be doing "just fine"... 90% of the time .. the answer is YES!... so we go ahead...for the kids, for us... if we are fretting every moment.. if every bite we take.. we are imaging eating dollar bills.. how sad is that.

Does he have any hobbies HE spends extra on.. if he can just see that YOU.. the kids.. allowing a little of that to happen -for them.. that it's worth it.. for the happiness of the family.. and still the stash is there ...you're doing WELL !...still ready for that emergency .... He needs a new improved mindset here..
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Re: Is my husband too cheap?

My wife complains that I'm too cheap - we both work and make decent $, and while she's not a spendthrift, she has the attitude that she can spend the $ as she makes $. She also leaves lights on all over the house (which drives me nuts), and allows her sister to use us as a trust fund (notwithstanding the fact that we have two small children).

Now, that can go too far (the comment about the Easter Egg hunt is over the line from your husband). I usually don't comment too much about finances (my wife has as much knowledge about money as our dog) as that just starts a fight.
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go back to work full time.

make him do his own laundry and take turns cooking and cleaning. if he doesn't do his fair share let his stuff pile up not your fault if hes a messy pig.

split the bills proportionally.
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