06-15-2011, 08:20 PM
Join Date: May 2010
| | Re: Should I feel like a "moocher" if I am "mooching" from my in laws?
To me, mooching is when you expect others to take care of you and therefore make no effort to do it yourself. I've been known to ask my parents for help from time to time, but it's always that - asking. I never expect them to do it, and if they say no, I am not offended, hurt, etc. I simply look at my situation and try to find another solution. Accepting gifts or having dinner paid for is not mooching, in my opinion, again unless you are expecting it and doing nothing to change it. I mean, I know my parents will always pay for dinner when we go out together, but I still attempt to pay the check. And every now and then, I actually get to. lol
When I think of mooching, I tend to think of the "friend" that crashes on your couch, supposedly for a couple of nights while they move from one apartment to another, but in reality they stay there for 6 months, eating your food, using your car, watching your cable, running up your phone bill, etc. Or the "friend" (or relative!) that asks to borrow money and gets thoroughly pissed off when you say no. The relative who comes on vacation and simply expects that your guest room will be available and ready, with mints on the pillow and their favorite brand of beer stocked in your fridge.