Re: I make ALL the money, she complains we are broke
Time to sit the wife down when the kids are away or asleep and have a serious discussion on the future of your marriage as this is a serious problem. Ask her what her what is her perspective and what she thinks needs to be done? If her answer is "You need to make more money" instead of "I can pickup a job to help the family" then you have your answer.
Unfortunately you married an entitled woman that think men were created to be a wage slave with minimal effort on her. Time to face the music and change the direction of your life for the better because brother, I have been there and IT NEVER gets better. Entitlement attitudes like this are deeply engrained and your enabling simply prolong the inevitable. Stop being a wage slave to an undeserving spouse.
I feel sorry for those with depression, mental illness, hangnails, bad hair, bad childhood memories, etc. I feel sorry for the visually impaired but that doesn't mean I want a blind person flying my airplane and my compassion won't make the flight any safer.