Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: Finger Lakes region NY
Re: Whose money is it?
In our household, it was always "our" money until he wanted something expensive that I didn't think we could afford (I was the one paying the bills, we were both making good money but he made more). When I was 8 months pregnant and going on maternity leave so would have no income for several months (which was going to make our mortgage payments TIGHT during that time), he went out and bought himself an $18,000 motorcycle without telling me until AFTER he had already bought it. Needless to say, I was PISSED. Especially since we hadn't even finished buying the necessary stuff for the new baby yet and we already knew that child care expenses were going to take up a good chunk of my income once I went back to work.
And two years later, when he filed for bankruptcy after we separated - what conveniently got left OUT of the bankruptcy settlement - his expensive motorcycle and his even more expensive SUV. While we lost our house, I lost my car, and we destroyed our credit rating for the next 10 years.