Re: Is it time to put my foot down?
Well, since me being laid off, I have pretty much been a SAHM too. I am taking care of the baby most of the time even when he gets home from work and yes its a job. I get some income from unemployment, part time work, and financial aid from school. Just because I am still the primary caregiver of our child, doesn't mean I emphasize how I should keep all of the money I get to myself. I buy the groceries, things for the baby, help out with car expenses, and if anything else comes up, I have to help chip in on that too (I may not want to) but its a part of being married. If the children are in school, she can put in some part time hours some where or maybe you can offer to take care of the kids if she has to work some evening hours (that would be understandable-my husband does the same while I'm in school or at work). There is a way to make it happen. Being a SAHM yes is a job, but that does not mean you get your way all the time and any money that you may have come in (whether its from a work from home business, trust fund, part time work) goes solely to your interest, especially if your household needs it. You all may not necessarily have to combine your accounts, but you do need to manage them together, meaning, both of you all know what's going on and both of you all come to some sort of agreement as to what to do with ALL monies. You may have to plan short term and long term and you all may have to do some negotiating so that both of you all get what you need/want. It may be possible that she may have what she wants all the time and same with you, but if you balance it out and plan it, you can make it happen that way over time. It takes some patience and delayed gratification on both parts. Also, whats up with the kids not being you all's? Are they the children of some relatives?