You've done well work-wise and should feel good about that. Very well for a guy without a degree.
Does your wife want to work?
If so, could she work part time while you were home with the kids?
Let me make an observation.
You stated your desire for her to 'stay home' several times, but never once said what she wants.
Normally if she was in agreement - and her input mattered - the guy would say: We BOTH want her to raise the children. Or if she disagreed, he would mention that.
And perhaps others would frame it in terms of raising the children - vs. 'staying home'.
There is actually an important difference between saying: I want you to raise our children?
I don't want you to work?
My wife(22) and I(25) have been together for 6 years this month. We quickly had a daughter, and I quit college to start my family. We lived together several years before I finally committed to marrying her. (We had vicious cycle prior to marriage due to my lack of willingness to commit). We have been married a little over a year now, and life has been great. No arguing, it has been one of the happiest time of my life. Shortly after we married we were expecting our son who is now 6 months old. My wife has been through it all with me. I am the sole income in the household because I would rather her keep the kids at home.
When my daughter was 1, I changed jobs because I couldn't support a family on $21k. During this time, we were living in my employers hunting camp and eating TV dinners. I went to a job that starting pay was $32k with opportunities to make bonuses. We were able to scrape by during that time, yet we were broke. As our daughter got older, things got more expensive, and I hated my job.
I worked for that company for 2 years, and I was offered a job with starting pay at $925/wk. Huge improvement; we had to relocate for my job about an hour away. I worked some crazy long hours for almost a year before I was offered a job doing what I really love to do.
My new employer started me out with $1000 wk and a health insurance allowance. We moved back to where we called home and decreasdo our cost of living a few hundred bucks a month. I have been working with this company for almost 2 years and do not plan to leave.
Now that's out of the way:
After our son was born, things were great for the first couple of months, but it has quickly gone downhill. It has mainly gone downhill because of finanves and minor medical problems.
I have our bills laid out in a loose Form of a budget. We with household and insurance consuming 85% of my pay we don't have extra money to do much of anything thing now that we are raising 2 kids.
The financial stress has affected our relationship grwatly. We no longer have any type of sex life, my wife is unhappy, and we don't have extra funds to do something for ourselves. We recently took a 1 day trip for $100 just as a distraction. I've made it a point I would like for my wife to stay home.
I'm just not sure what to do at this point. I hate the feeling that you work all the time to get fussed at or grumpy attitude because we can't do something.
Can someone please help me figure out how to get my relationship back on track? I'm miss the old days.