Death benefits + salaries - how to manage
I was widowed and left to raise a newborn son alone. I received some money from donated gifts, along with my late husband's pension. I bought a home for my son and I using that money and the pension. 8 years later, I met my current husband. He had nothing in the way of money and had little possessions - he still lived with his parents at age 35. He moved into my home, and got a job and started contributing toward household expenses, such as utilities, groceries, credit cards, etc.
A few years into the marriage, we had a child of our own, we sold my home and bought a home together, although the down payment was entirely from the sale of my original home. A year later, my husband was unemployed, and I paid off his debt and paid his child support for him for a full year until he found another job. At the same time, I also found a job.
Now, both our salaries are equal, but I still receive the death pension. It is my feeling that the pension should continue to pay for the house (since I would have the mortgage on it whether we were married or not), and should also pay for expenses that go along with owning the home (taxes, insurance, etc), just as it did before I met him. Any monies left over from the pension should belong to my first son and I (since the pension is from my late husband and my first son's father, long before I met my current husband). I feel that our combined salaries should cover all the other living expenses we share. However, my husband feels that all the money regardless of where it came from, should be shared monies. But when his mother sends him money as a gift, he thinks that money should be only his. Am I wrong in feeling like I am being used?