Originally Posted by lessonslearned15 View Post
I'll admit, I'm bitter. As I said in another thread, I have been pretty successful this year at work. I'm constantly trying to improve myself and working on a few things for next year. I finished a project that paid me a large sum of money. With this, I had to pay things my husband caused. I don't want to go into details as it might reveal who I am, but I paid thousands upon thousands of dollars to remedy something that my name was attached to. However, my poor financial planning wasn't the issue. It was his. He recently started his own business and has been working very hard, but prior to that, he never really had a job that would support us should I lose mine. I've been with my company a long time and it's part of the reason I got such a great opportunity and paid what I did. This is making me bitter beyond belief. I repaired his credit and now our scores are outstanding. I have a little left in savings, but should have almost $15,000 to $20,000. I don't because of the financial mishap he caused. He always has to have the expensive cars. Told me he'd sell his toy to recoup some of the money, but has not. There are other issues, but this is huge for me. I feel like I'm having to take care of him. I'd like to be taken care of for once. Am I being unrealistic?
Before I got married to Mrs.CuddleBug, I already planned our finances.
- both have our own bank accounts (joint spousal)
- our own credit cards (joint spousal)
- my line of credit (she has full access)
- our own cars (BCAA Premier for both)
- our own cells
- our own computers
We both pay our share of the monthly bills equally, based on our incomes.
We both can see all each others finances, including all accounts with passwords at all times.
I make sure our bills are paid early each month. Mrs.CuddleBug works in an office environment so I do the bills. But she likes to do our income tax returns, so that now is her thing.
Mrs.CuddleBug is the frugal one, were as I am more the spender, but always to save us money in the long term. Long term investing, paying off debts, upgrades, etc.
Mrs.CuddleBug still tells me what she buys and for how much. I tell her, don't worry about it because I know she is smart with her money.
My reason for doing this, is to be modern and equal and that we don't fight about money.