If he doesn't want you to work, then your would need to be budgeted a financial allowance that is yours.
If you don't want to work/would prefer not to work, then that is your consumer choice and get to face your own choices (especially if you haven't got passive income or homebased business).
It depends who is the consumer making the decision.
There are many excellent reasons for you to spend time with the children when they are young, if that is the way your brain and body want to go; and if you partner is keen on that then as a couple there needs to be a decision on what the couples' budget can afford to allow you. Modern wages and costs simply aren't sufficient for 1950's style culture without significant sacrifices.
The best places are family councilors, plunket, and abuse centers. Also citizens advice bureaus often have excellent contacts (usually the abuse center). If your prick of a husband won't let you travel/use a car then the abuse center is your much needed first stop asap, and get your head sorted out. Often they will pay for a taxi, even if you have to get a random neighbour to phone. Failing that ring police and ask for them to help you get to the abuse center/shelter - but don't muck these people around, be prepared to listen hard.
Yes it will hurt your husband, and he will be angry. But you both only get one life to live, and he can't spend his robbing you of yours (or vice versa, if it is really you who refuses to work