Re: Financial Arrangement for Stay at Home Mom
I think that except in very special circumstances, a married couple should share money. Incomes can rise and fall, you can inherit money, all sorts of things can change the balance. If money is shared both benefit, or both need to cut back. If you love someone, why would you wan them to live under financial stress when you are doing well yourself?
Separately he sounds VERY controlling. Jobs in a marriage are to be shared. Sure for practical reasons one person or the other may become responsible for some task, but it should all be a partnership. This is a MARRIAGE, not a business arrangement.
When I got married, I was a very poor graduate student, my wife had a "real" job that made quite a bit of money and she basically supported me. When I got out of school, my income started low, but rose After about 10 years it matched hers, then continued to grow until it was much larger. Then her parents died and she inherited a bunch of money (the equivalent of 10 years of our combined incomes). We've always shared money, shared costs. When money was tight, we both lived very frugally. Now that we have a lot of money, we can both enjoy things together. If we lose jobs or otherwise become poor, then we will be poor together. I think that is how it should work.