Re: How to say no to expenditure?
The issue has become about once identity; my wife is married and is expected to fulfill few responsibility by Indian Standard; Yet, she never got a chance to go out and make friends in India, as dating guys is something seen as taboo in india by girls especially in traditional families.
So, she is exploring her self here so she makes friends who she can enjoy time and these are mostly single guys who came over from my country, who I have met; she wants to enjoy the usual Canadian things like going to downtown, restaurant, club and celebrating new year and other things.
it is right up to the point, yet she has to move past that in a long run as all her cousin sisters have children now and my parents are asking about when they'll have grand children,
And this is something she has to come in terms with, along with helping her family vs visiting India; We do not have a million dollar bank balance to simply say Yes to all our wants and needs and a person can not simply say no to responsibility and expect other people who live on traditional ideology to simply understand it.
I allow my wife to go out to club, restaurant and do other activities with her friends to maybe fulfill her dreams and expectation; Yet, she has to come up with term that in long term she needs to get a baby and possibly buy a house to move forward in life. A Person only stays in College for few years, they simply have to move forward and make other things priority over time.