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I love my husband he's an amazing husband, friend and father! He was paying child support before we got married however immediately after we were married his kids mom went and filed through the court for child support and now he's paying 1,468 monthly but only bring home 248.00. The financial stress is unbearable I'm considering divorce! Any advice???

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I love my husband he's an amazing husband, friend and father! He was paying child support before we got married however immediately after we were married his kids mom went and filed through the court for child support and now he's paying 1,468 monthly but only bring home 248.00. The financial stress is unbearable I'm considering divorce! Any advice???
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I love my husband he's an amazing husband, friend and father! He was paying child support before we got married however immediately after we were married his kids mom went and filed through the court for child support and now he's paying 1,468 monthly but only bring home 248.00. The financial stress is unbearable I'm considering divorce! Any advice???
So he's paying out 6x his take home pay in child support?? I assume that's a typo.

I think it's horrible to divorce a guy just because he's paying court mandated child support. Or are you considering divorce for tax reasons or something?

Has he hired a lawyer himself?

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I know its horrible! The stress is overbearing. We can't afford an attorney! Been to CSE several times they won't help. We have been evited, lived with my mom, and about to be evicted again i already work 2 jobs i can't do much more...
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And no its not a typo and he also has them on health insurance. I want him to take care of his kids but how are we suppose to live a descent life?
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I think if I were in your situation I'd call the media and ask them if they'd do a troubleshooter episode or something on it.

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I thought about that! Its a lot of father's thats really being treated unfairly because their no longer with they child's mom the state won't help smh
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I love my husband he's an amazing husband, friend and father! He was paying child support before we got married however immediately after we were married his kids mom went and filed through the court for child support and now he's paying 1,468 monthly but only bring home 248.00. The financial stress is unbearable I'm considering divorce! Any advice???
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Sure he's child Support for 4 kids ruffly 420.00 for each child per month plus their on his health insurance he only has 238.00 bi weekly to live off we struggle a lot i do work 2 jobs im exhausted!!!
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Have a serious math problem there. CS is a percentage of a person's income. Meaning they can't really charge you more than you actually make. The only way they could possibly do that, that comes to mind, is if he were a Doctor and suddenly left that field for a career pumping gas. Then they would impute his income to his significantly higher earning potential based on his willful underemployment. I'm guessing, since that's not so common, that this isn't your scenario.

So... How much does he make a year? How many kids? What State? That info can get you a guesstimate on what the CS should be on the State's online CS calculator.
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Have a serious math problem there. CS is a percentage of a person's income. Meaning they can't really charge you more than you actually make. The only way they could possibly do that, that comes to mind, is if he were a Doctor and suddenly left that field for a career pumping gas. Then they would impute his income to his significantly higher earning potential based on his willful underemployment. I'm guessing, since that's not so common, that this isn't your scenario.

So... How much does he make a year? How many kids? What State? That info can get you a guesstimate on what the CS should be on the State's online CS calculator.
Yes they can, especially if he took a pay cut. They can force you to pay what you were paying before, even though your income dropped.

Also, it's possible the new CS is based on the combined income of the OP and her H.

Or it's possible she means that after CS he's only got $250/month left.

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Hi guys he has 4 kids and pay approximately 423.00 montly per child after child Support, health Insurance for him and the kids he bring home about 230.00 per pay period we live in the state of LA and according to the child Support skill he is paying much more then he should we've written letters went talk to case workers and no results! I'm not encouraging him to not pay child support because they are his kids but it leaves me to try to run the household I fell overwhelmed!!! We don't have money to pay bills so we surely can't afford an attorney its not fair!! There's nothing left for us to do...
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using the numbers you gave us, I arrived at him earning $1,922 a month. I think that's a bit low because you said he also pays for insurance. So you can adjust it to what he actually earns.

(423 x 4) + 230 = $1,922 monthly income

Then I took the $1,922 amount and plugged it into the LA child support calculator. It says that his child support for 4 kids should be $711 a month. You can re-do it with the actual info/numbers.


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Does he owe back child support? Is that why it's so high?

Also $423 a month for each child makes no sense because every child support calculation I've ever seen applies lessor percentages for each child.. the first one might be 10% of his income, the next child 8%, the third one 6% and so forth.

He can represent himself in court. Every state court system has self help offices plus there is a lot of into online for people to represent themselves.
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"I think it's horrible to divorce a guy just because he's paying court mandated child support. Or are you considering divorce for tax reasons or something?"

Why is it horrible? The guy barely contributes anything to the household. Bills are going unpaid. Would you have her turn tricks between her two jobs to make ends meet?

Her husband has not fully investigated and gotten to the root of the high payment. Why isn't he working a second job? As it is he's just sponging off of her.
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"I think it's horrible to divorce a guy just because he's paying court mandated child support. Or are you considering divorce for tax reasons or something?"

Why is it horrible? The guy barely contributes anything to the household. Bills are going unpaid. Would you have her turn tricks between her two jobs to make ends meet?

Her husband has not fully investigated and gotten to the root of the high payment. Why isn't he working a second job? As it is he's just sponging off of her.
Hold on here. You are reading more into this than she actually said. She is frustrated because the CS is so high. They have done all they know to do, to get to the bottom of it. You asked why he doesn't work two jobs. Did it ever occur to you that his hours may be such that it us virtually impossible to work a second job?

I understand her frustrations. I have a good friend who is dealing with a similar issue. The only difference is her husband doesn't even try to look into it. In his case, he works 10-12 hour shifts, most weeks. They barely make ends meet at their house, because so much is taken out for CS for his two kids from his first marriage. But working a second job would be impossible, in his case. And her severe social anxiety prevents her from working outside their home... which sucks, since her education was for positions working with people.

From what OP said, they HAVE been trying, but the frustration over it all is overwhelming. I wish I had ideas above and beyond what has been done. All I can suggest is going to the child support office again, and keep going until they actually listen.

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She said $230 per pay period, and I think she said that is twice a month. Not that it adds up at all, but just wanted to add that in.

I agree, he should be doing something, somewhere, to fix this situation.
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