Re: sole provider = how much say do i have?
[QUOTE=WhyMe66;15451257]A lot of bargaining power, depending on what state you live in. Remember the Golden Rule; “Him what has the gold makes the rules.” You are right, she has gotten very complacent. Has she started medication for the thyroid? That will only help partially, she has to get up and get going. Once she is in motion it will be easier for her to stay in motion. The longer she lays about the more stagnant she will be. You say you’ve gone to counseling, did you have to drag her there, kicking and screaming? If so that tells me that she is not interested in fixing any problems. Has her attitude gotten more and more negative in general? She may be wallowing in victim hood; “I could have had a career, I could have had a pony, I coulda been a contender…” As much as I hate the idea of divorce you may have to float that balloon. Tell her she is not good for the kids this way-or for you, either. You are doing a job you hate to provide for her and she is not bringing anything to the table but negativity and self-pity. Suggest a trial separation to see how things go.[/QUOTE]
If she really is depressed, that quick and harsh move) could put right into some dark territory...
I think we need to hear quite a bit more info from OP....Like the rest of the story
Holes burn deep in your chest,
Raked by machine gun fire.
Screaming soul sent out to die,
Living mandatory suicide.