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post #31 of 33 (permalink) Old 04-22-2016, 10:29 AM
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Re: Question about situation

What's her skill set? There are lots of work from home jobs if you have specific skills.

She's already halfway through the first year, right? So I'd say try to find something different that pays more than the 12-hour job that won't require her to quit, but insist that she gets a full time job next summer after she graduates this course.

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post #32 of 33 (permalink) Old 04-22-2016, 01:56 PM Thread Starter
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Hi we have decided to downgrade vehicle saving 400/month in total with insurance and gas

She used to do office work but right now with kids in school hard to find work btw 9-3.

She will continue school pt job with some extra hours and will b able to contribute from her wage the remainder
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Its been a while since posting on this topic and i have another situation I was hoping to get an opinion on.

As you may recall.. I just recently finished med school, starting residency and finally will be making income.

To this point i have been supporting family through credit line, loan, scholarships.

Wife works very part time, is taking a class and does all the kids stuff (2kids).

Original plan was i would support fam with loans and starting residency she would chip in to make up budget shortfall.

Thats when it came to a head when last month she through her hands up and said i dont know how to contribute with 1000$.

I understand, its hard to find work while kids in scholl and my schedule being unpredictable.

I suggested changing vehicle, didnthe math negotiated and got us into hyundai saving 500/month! Thus we only need 500 from her contribution!

I proposed models to her to involve her amd we decided upon hyundai.

I thought all was good as the numbers made sense i bargained hard and the is promo going on! Then today she found out it was manual transmission when we were picking it up.

Cant beleive the blow up!

Afterall i asked her to do research on specific models i found that were most cost effect all of which are manul.

Our current jeep was manual, 3 cars before were too, she drives very well!

I feel deflated because i feel there was a financial problem, she indicated she does not know what to do. So i got into action, found this opportunity, and managed to save 500/month.

I feel it again is not my issue that she is upset, she could have done research on those cars, as all base models are manaual, she never asked and i didnt think its an issue as that is what we are driving now - i though $ was the main goal.

Feeling a bit upset too. Its easy to point and say i want this, not this etc... But more difficult to actually take action, get out, and do research, negotiate, and bring an opportunity for the family.

Any opinions on all this? I have already expressed these thoughts....
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