I am having some issues with my current job position. The wife makes more than I do, but I have child support and a garnishment taken out of my paycheck. Not to mention that I work as a contractor and only make so much per piece. I do not like my current job and keep looking and applying for something more stable in pay per hour than by the piece type of work. This has brought many different comments from the wife about her having to use her whole check to pay for a lot of the bills.
Since this is the last month in our apt, we are moving to lower rent and able to pay off more bills faster than now. I sometimes feel inferior or low, like a beaten dog each time the rent or some other bill was paid. I try to explain to her that we could cut some bills down, but I get kickback about trying to lower bills that can be cheaper in a different way.
I know I am not the greatest in paying bills on time, but since our marriage I feel that I can't pay anything correctly because if I'm late or not doing it like she wants me to do it, I get the speech about being careless or comments on how she has no money.
I have seen other posts about this and I know I should try and talk to her about it, but sometimes it's hard when dealing with someone who tends to control the conversations and makes me feel bad and like an idiot. Just trying to avoid the swipe speech. I don't use any of the debit cards anymore, without asking since if I was to make any decision about paying a bill without knowing how she has payment arrangements made, gets me in hot water.
looking for some suggestions besides counseling to address this.