Thanks to everyone again for the advice
So my fiancé is the type of person to get angry and always suggests splitting up as our first solution, a lot of the time. He knows it's immature and childish. I also got him at a bad time , bringing this up so we are both at fault.
So we have only resolved things today, we are going for pre marital counseling something that's long overdue and these are the factors I need addressed from my side:
1. He tells me I'm shallow everytime I bring up money or improving ourselves in our careers to make more money. I am far from shallow. If I really was I would marry someone very rich. He fails to understand that my goal is a healthy life in every sphere, definitely far from shallow.
2. He says I must have faith in God because God provides and my worrying is a lack of faith. My argument is yes God provides, Faith in God is met with effort from our parts and some days , I'm very much human, my faith wavers and I worry because we don't eat mega bux. He is doing some work at home and the guys did him in, and he felt that loss of money today and he expressed his worries to me, and I couldn't help but say, this is exactly what I mean. He says it was a lesson to him. Don't worry, I'm not gloating in this but glad he got some perspective.
3. He told his mother what his perception of what I said yesterday, I wasn't there, and I got upset because she probably thinks lesser of me now, and he involved my mum and his mum. He did. And he apologized for it today and said m henceforth our issues are ours to solve unless we need advice from wiser people. This made my blood boil. Because when I asked why he told his mum he said because we are close. Making me feel like I had no right to question their relationship, but it's our issues and they are supposed to be private. My mum intervened on my behalf because HE involved her otherwise she would never and I think when my mum spoke to him (and she wS very nice about it) he didn't like it and preferred our problems stay between us.
4. I just feel that based on everything I said, he tends to invalidate my feelings.
What was my fault was my choice of words , I realised I would have also got defensive and angry if someone used those words on me. So today I calmly explained that I simply needed a reassurance, and he gave it to me.
I feel like I'm putting my fiancé in a bad light, but I love him and I don't doubt my choice. I feel like I'm going into this marriage with good intentions, we are getting married because we love each other that's all.
I know there are things he will definitely bring up about me in counseling, for one I have really ugly mood swings, and I know I always compare him to my dad ( who cheated and let my mum take the financial burden for a very long time) and it's very wrong of me, though my dad has altered my perception of men in general amongst other things.
I'm glad we are taking this step together i want us to deal with our issues as one.