Well, for my wife and I, this very question has ended us in a very bad spot. We have 8 years together and the first 6 years we did not have kids and I have always been the breadwinner, not that I didn't encourage her to be ambitious and get out there get that dream job or start that dream business.
From my prospective, even being the breadwinner, doesn't mean you are contributing the most to the family and for me personally I could be making millions/year and still not be contributing enough to the family in the eyes
of my wife.
This is to say, money takes care of the bills and pays for amenities, but in my house, you better believe that as soon as I get off of work, I too have an equal role in the chores and upbringing of the little ones. Spending time with my girls and eating dinner and reading them to sleep is the highlight of my day, but the other household chores that I must endure, I must say I could do without.
If I sit for 30 mins to watch a football game or television show to "relax," the wife is not having that and gives me the iron, lol. She says multitasking, I say multitask your ass out there and get a job, lol.
Funny, but in all seriousness, the breadwinner (often the male) does have a huge weight to burden, but for me I welcome it, that is the role that I see myself full-filling, but I'm not old fashion by any means. I welcome or even challenge my wife to contribute equally financially (at least in the proximity), because from my perspective, I contribute at least 40% of the household/daily chores/child rearing and her financial contribution would be around 20% with a 60% in house, which comes to 80% in comparison to my 40% + 80%, so who's in this relationship 100%
Yeah I'm a bit bitter!!!:
Yeah wives (some) do the math