Re: Main source of income
Hi, I replied in one of your other threads. I wonder if it may be helpful to you and others if your threads could be condensed into one so we can get a bigger picture of what is going on? A mod can do that for you.
Your issue around money hits home to me because we have a similar situation going on. I haven't worked outside the home for 17 years (though I have a disabled child which complicates things somewhat - however, in theory I could work a few hours if I could find something that fitted in around my responsibilities to him).
I have always felt embarrassed and guilty for not financially contributing to the household income but at the same time I do feel that my family get good value for money. My job is to keep everything running smoothly, support my husband in his job, make sure the finances add up at the end of the month, that everyone has what they need for the next day, the house is clean and tidy, food in the cupboard. My family like this. My husband likes me being here for the kids when they get home, or be able to drive to school to attend meetings, or be there for them when they are sick. If I worked he would have to do a lot more than he already does. I also look after my elderly parents (one is disabled) and that is also important to us.
In contrast, you are NOT happy, you are working too many hours and you are dissatisfied with how things are financially and she makes promises that she doesn't keep. You don't seem to think you are getting value from your wife being at home. So your system is not working. Something has to change or you will work yourself to death or have a nervous breakdown from the stress of being the only breadwinner.
Have you any children? Is your MIL disabled?