We are divorcing, broke/have step son & shack up pulling in $100K and not paying rent
How do I handle the kids not chipping in now that I am almost divorced, out of the house, the house must go in the next 8 months. It is not sustainable. What do I do with, or say, that they will not pay for some household expenses. Mother can't make up the $3000 shortfall and neither can I.
I angry and want to criticize and blow my top. Should I just relax and live by my STBX's words, "you are relieved of any financial responsibility or opinion of what I do in the house. My gut says stay out of it. I will be leaving soon. I just hate moochers. I want to get even or punish somehow-but I'm not going to do a thing.
What is your opinion about the Frued thing and emotional incest. Am I correct or incorrect that this is true in a way. He does seem to put his two cents in and is always around. I have complained when do we get this house to ourselves to no avail.
I am out of work, interviewing like crazy. We will lose the house for sale. I have a problem. I have a 28 year old stepson and his 33 year old shack up living with us for three years. I have been asking for my needs to be met and I was willing to meet hers, but that never materialized. I wanted them both until we get through this rough patch and contribute to the household. I was thinking $500 each. Short-term and I asked her over the years they need to move out because they are moochers and non contributors. She said that she doesn't want her son to and for me to shut up about it. I don't comfront the bastard over the years due to the marriage on the rocks, and the fear factor of getting evicted from my home. It's titled in her name and mortgage.
Anyway she canceled cable $70 a month and debating to cancel internet. I am pissed. These older adults who failed to launch making a combined $100K can't help my STBX. I don't know if my STBX chickened to request assistance, but the kids know that the t.v. will be gone. You would think they would come up with some money because they enjoy T.V. too! I am chicken to confront him to move out or pay up. Not my role!
Your thoughts. I hate these moochers, I have had animosity toward him from our second year of marriage because he and she treated my son like crap. I should have left years ago. I am very angry at myself, her, her son. I just want to find a way to get even or punish this arrogant son of hers. I say he is her financial husband and tell her so and he has to go-That don't work: I picture Freud's complex: In psychoanalysis, the Oedipus complex (or, less commonly, Oedipal complex) is a child's desire, that the mind keeps in the unconscious via dynamic repression, to have sexual relations with the parent of the opposite sex (i.e. males attracted to their mothers, and females attracted to their fathers).
It's my opinion. the above is a bit far fetched, but emotional and financial incest with son buying appliances, or major purchases for the house his mother owns because she can't afford, no I. We have bit more than we can chew with an expensive house. We need to scale back to save our self's and ther marriage. I think she doesn't want her son to go due to her fixation: I sense its this: Her second husband died and she made her son supplant me: Example =Making a child the stand in for the spouse you lost, be it through divorce or death, is not unusual. It happens all the time. From a Family Systems perspective, this dynamic makes perfect sense. When one member of the system leaves, another one will step up and take its place. This is nature's way of maintaining a sense of balance. The scientific term for this phenomenon is "homeostasis."It's not only parents imposing this role on their children. Some children see what is needed (or at least what they think is needed) and offer to fill the spot. For every story I hear about a parent leaning too heavily on a child, I hear about a child who wants to be seen as "the man of the house now," or "dad's caretaker."