Lied about debt
I started to lie about credit card debt during our marriage. They were in my name and it started as both of us using the cards, but then it turned into me using the cards. Nothing major bought, just odds and ends, here and there. I finally let it all come out after my H and I had been separated and were trying to reconcile. (Ends up totaling <$8000) I knew that if I wanted to make our relationship work, I had to clean the slate.
Now that I've done that, he can't trust me. I understand. I've given him my only card that was still active. He wants to put me on a budget and wants me to come up with a way to pay these debts off. He wants me to tell my dad about it and see if he will help (he probably would pay it all off and let me pay him back monthly). I don't want to do it this way. I don't feel like my dad needs to know this info because it is very embarrassing and it really doesn't affect him in anyway. I can come up with a way to pay the debt, it will just take longer than if I were to ask my dad to help.
My H has told his mom - even though she is NOT affected and she is in NO position to help.
btw....we are over 30 and have a child. Not young pups that can't make decisions. I have always made sure all bills were paid. We still have our cars and house. Other than having a tight budget, we are doing fine money wise.
Do any of you TAM folks have any insight for me - THANKS!!