Hi, I've asked questions here before about my whining brother in law who's wife has overseas money in some ambiguous inheritance.
The advice I got here, and agree with, was that her money is her money and he should ignore it and let her do as she pleases.
However, he was told that through a separate inheritance designated for college that his kids were given money but he has no idea how much, where it is, and what the terms are.
Now that his kids are college age, and assuming his marriage still sucks (and it does), I told him the fun and games had to end between he and his wife because in my opinion he deserves to know what his kids can or cannot count on for college.
My thinking, how can he possibly make college choices without knowing his financial options?
His wife ignores him, his in laws talk ambiguously about wanting to know his daughter's plans before they tell him anything about "giving" up the money.
I'm probably a bad friend at this point, i told him unless somebody gives him more info, he should consider that the inheritance is "zero". it would make me angry if my parents or in laws tried to "control" my child through extorting college money and directing them to certain schools or degrees.