Financial Problems in MarriageWhen financial times are tough, it adds to the stress we deal with on a daily basis. This section is for talking about how financial problems affect our relationships and ways to cope.
That girl, I have read many posts from you and you just seem bitter. In almost every post you are negative. Who cares if he posted what he makes?? It's not like you know him. Geez, lighten up.
I suggested Her Majesty hire some kulaks to clean up once in a while. I don't have the time and she's a hoarder/slob. But her inner peasant stops her from hiring some Russians of questionable residency to drag some swiffers round the hovel once in a while.
I can say that if you can afford it, do it. Get someone to do the drudgery whether your wife works or not.
I suggested Her Majesty hire some kulaks to clean up once in a while. I don't have the time and she's a hoarder/slob. But her inner peasant stops her from hiring some Russians of questionable residency to drag some swiffers round the hovel once in a while.
I can say that if you can afford it, do it. Get someone to do the drudgery whether your wife works or not.
You sir, have a large humor bone. Very funny. Nicely said.
If you can afford it, know you won't resent it or make her feel like she is worthless because she doesn't have a job, then yes, do it.
Being a stay at home mom, even though I have a job, you still have people that come up and say, your kids are old enough, why don't you work? Both my kids have special needs and I am disabled so I am constantly on 5the phone with drs and insurance. The hubby has not once asked me to work and I do volunteer with boy scouts.
The reason that the girlfriend is trying to change her mind is this. There are people that say sure, I can provide for us. Then five years down the road, they have thrown it in the woman's face that he has supported her this entire time! It no longer was a mutual decision. Then the woman is left high and dry and had no job to pull work experience from. Not an easy place to be.
Just as long as you can be honest about any feelings that might arise and she loves it, do it. There are very few people that can give somebody this and if you can, it is a blessing. Enjoy the maid!
i think you ll make a great husband. go for it. your future wife has things to do,which she enjoys and loves and she ll get time to do those,instead of doing chores. so its great! she ll be one pampered wife!
if my husband could afford it, he ll do it for me.
you are a rare man and dont let the friend affect your relationship. i think you should tell your gf to tell the friend to back off. i have friends who stay home and have maids.honestly, im happy that they can live that way.besides, those maids are poor people.so my friends are providing a living for some poor women.
If your gf's friend is carrying on about how gf not working is a bad idea, there is a very good chance that this reflects the thoughts of your gf... perhaps thoughts that your gf is not comfortable telling you. If she was truely uncomfortable with what her friend was saying, she'd tell her friend to stop bugging her... she's made up her mind and will be staying home.my girl is sure about what she wants to do.she can tell me anything and is comfortable telling me anything.
Your sort of agressive response here, "look biatch", speaks of an attitude against your gf's friend. sorry if i offended you.its just that ever since we got engaged this woman tries to break it.she went as far as saying to my girl "what do you have that i dont have that a guy like D would select you and not me?" she said it and tried to make it sound like a joke.this happened when i went to my girl's office with flowers on her birthday
Maybe yoru gf has confided somethings to her friend and that's the basis of all those remarks. You need to have a serious talk with your gf.. my bet is that no the one hand she wants to do what you want her to do. And on the other hand she's concerned about losing herself in your much bigger world.
she is not worried about losing herself in a much bigger world.she said so.had a talk with her she just wants to get rid of this woman
If you can afford it, know you won't resent it or make her feel like she is worthless because she doesn't have a job, then yes, do it.we can afford it tamara.i will not resent it.who do i earn money for? for us.so i dont have a problem spending money for us and i dont feel why is she home while i work and i wont make her feel worthless.we dont equal self worth with money/job.we feel she ll be making a difference caring for elder people,helpless animals
Being a stay at home mom, even though I have a job, you still have people that come up and say, your kids are old enough, why don't you work?you should tell them "im a housewife.i do work.its not 9-5 job.it doesnt pay.but it's still work.i cook,clean,wash,iron,take care of my kids" Both my kids have special needs and I am disabled so I am constantly on 5the phone with drs and insurance.those who ask you why dont you work should be world class idiots The hubby has not once asked me to work and I do volunteer with boy scouts. you have a great husband.and bravo! you are disabled but you are normal
The reason that the girlfriend is trying to change her mind is this. There are people that say sure, I can provide for us. Then five years down the road, they have thrown it in the woman's face that he has supported her this entire time! It no longer was a mutual decision. Then the woman is left high and dry and had no job to pull work experience from. Not an easy place to be. i understand tamara.lots of pigs, less real men! but,my girl has explained that i am not like that.but the friend wont drop the subject
Just as long as you can be honest about any feelings that might arise and she loves it, do it. There are very few people that can give somebody this and if you can, it is a blessing. Enjoy the maid!
If your gf just wants to get rid of this woman, then why doesn't she?
Geez... if you both don't like her, why are you here?
how can she get rid of her when that woman will take every moment she is free (and their manager is not around) to lecture my gf about me? thats what we want to know. the woman sits with my gf at lunch and what can my gf do? take her luch,stand up and go to another table? my gf did change her home phone number
how can she get rid of her when that woman will take every moment she is free (and their manager is not around) to lecture my gf about me? thats what we want to know. the woman sits with my gf at lunch and what can my gf do? take her luch,stand up and go to another table? my gf did change her home phone number
How long has this been going on.
Your gf has to find a way to tell this woman that she does not want to discuss this anymore. She could just tell the woman that she has heard her point of view. Gets it and wants to discuss other topics. Your gf have a list of other topics to discuss. The weather, the news … maybe stick to funny/odd things in the news. Surely your gf can find other interesting topics to bring up to discuss.
If your gf has other friends at work she could ask some of them to sit with her at lunch.. you know plan ahead.
Your gf could eat at her desk.
She could go somewhere else for lunch. OR even bring something like a salad/lunch from home and eat at her desk.. saying that she has a lot of work to catch up on. Or she could start going for a walk at lunch.
Come on, surely you and your gf can brainstorm about how she can avoid this woman.
How long has this been going on.since we got engaged.6 months.i guess she thought all rich men are palyers and will just leave vic someday.but when we got engaged she started acting different.
Your gf has to find a way to tell this woman that she does not want to discuss this anymore. She could just tell the woman that she has heard her point of view. Gets itshe has told her many times and wants to discuss other topics. Your gf have a list of other topics to discuss. The weather, the news … maybe stick to funny/odd things in the news. Surely your gf can find other interesting topics to bring up to discuss.other topics always leads to me
If your gf has other friends at work she could ask some of them to sit with her at lunch.. you know plan ahead.she does sit down with other friends.the woman comes and sits with them after they start eating
Your gf could eat at her desk.she works at customer care front office.she cant that ll be bad
She could go somewhere else for lunch. OR even bring something like a salad/lunch from home and eat at her desk.. saying that she has a lot of work to catch up on. Or she could start going for a walk at lunch.
Come on, surely you and your gf can brainstorm about how she can avoid this woman.
thanks for trying to help EleGirl.thanks for the time and effort. just nice to know there are some women who can see another girl happy and wont go all green with envy.i get "he is rich.why should we help him.he doesnt need us" sometimes.but you tried to help when we came here asking what to do
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Re: would you stay home and have a maid? 
Very funny. Nicely said.
she just wants to get rid of this woman 
i think any man who has enough money to treat his lady like a princess should do so.(if he is not a greedy man and if he loves her!) 
the woman sits with my gf at lunch and what can my gf do? take her luch,stand up and go to another table? my gf did change her home phone number
