Wife says my parents don't give us enough money
Married almost 4 years, two young children. We're both professionals, but she is on maternity leave and therefore only getting employment insurance at 50% of her salary until she goes back to work in August.
My wife's parents (who live in the same city) are not well off, but they have gone above and beyond in giving us money, buying things for the boys, even buying some of the furniture in the house for us. Fantastic, except that my wife uses this against me and my parents.
My folks are retired, but pretty well off. They live about 1,000km away and have to pay quite a bit to fly or drive up here to see their grandsons. They also have another grandson back where they live.
Therefore, they've given us a lot (including $800.00 at Christmas time, plus lots of presents for the kids) but not as much as my in-laws.
My wife and I have been arguing a lot lately, and last night she did raise the point that my parents haven't contributed as much. I walked away, and she came after me saying, "you know it's true! The truth hurts!" I responded with one finger.
In the past, my wife has tried to get me to talk my parents into giving us more money, which has led to some extremely awkward conversations with them. (It's only lately that I've stopped saying no to such demands, hence the collapsing marriage, because God forbid she doesn't get her own way.) She also says that she wants them to chip in toward the travel costs when we fly down (once a year) to see them.
This would be more understandable if we were on the verge of bankruptcy, but we're not. In fact, the same wife who wants money for travel for my one trip home per year is also planning a trip to the US, with lots of outlet shopping involved.
For her part, my wife is mad at me because, when she raised all her parents have given us, I responded that I never asked them for it. Not to sound ungrateful for what they've done, but because I don't want it being used against my family.
We were set to see a marriage counselor next week, but if this is the way she feels I'm not sure I want to save this marriage. (If not for my boys, I would have been gone long ago.) There is no one on earth quite like my wife, but is anyone else going through something like this?