03-02-2012, 10:53 PM
Join Date: Jul 2008
| | Re: Husband hates his new job but has no experiance to get a new one
I hate my job, also. I just started two months ago. But i dont think it would be right to give it up without something else lined up.
I asked my H how he would feel about it if I quit and he told me that he just wants me to do what makes me happy. I told him i really wanted his opinion on what I shoudl do but he kept telling me to do what I think is right.
If the situation was flipped and my H wanted to quit his job because he didn't like it, and he hated his job for awhile too, I would tell him not to quit. That he would be causing us incredible stress so he needed to just deal with it. But i dont think this approach is very good. It's controlling and would make him resentful towards me. He'd probably quit anyway and also hate me.
The way my H handled it seems ideal to me. I feel like he respects me, cares about my needs and is confident enough in himself that he can take care of his own needs. I also felt like he trusted me to make what I felt was the best decision. If he were to have taken my approach I would have resented him and felt like the relationship turned parental.
"I'm a lover of what is, not because I'm a spiritual person, but because it hurts when I argue with reality."
- Bryon Katie