Failing business is tearing us apart.
We have been married almost 12 years with 2 children ages 7 & 8 We are older - I'm 48, he's 53. When we met, he was in the process of starting his own landscaping business. It was going well until about 6 years ago. We live in a seasonal area, and as I was staying home with the babies it wasn't enough to get us through the year. Each year has gotten worse and we are in debt as a result. I've recently gone back to work as the kids are in school now and it is still not enough. All the money that comes in from this business goes right back into it. The expenses are HUGE, and the business has not grown at all over the years. I am working 2 jobs plus I have to do all the paperwork, books, billpaying, tax stuff for this failing business. I am exhausted, and trying to get through to him that it is time to pack it in and do something else because the whole family is suffering, and it is ruining our marriage. He's been working for 2 months now, and we are unable to pay our mortgage for April as of yet because we haven't received any payments.
He refuses to listen to me. He is in total denial, and he doesn't want to go work for someone else. I've tried to explain to him that if he just had a regular job he would work less hours, have less stress, and less expenses, and come out probably exactly the way we are now without all the stress.
I don't know how to get through to him. I feel angry, trapped, and resentful. I want to save our marriage but if we keep going like this, I don't know if we can. How can I get through to this stubborn, stubborn man? Please help!