08-18-2012, 08:07 PM
Join Date: Jan 2010
| | Venting, venting, venting
I'm feeling totally over whelmed!! I just need to vent and put out there what is going on finaincially. Some of you already know the story a bit. We lost our house and had to move in with my in laws, there is no work for my husband in our state so 2 weeks after we moved in with his parents he went to work in the state he wants to move us too. The union sub contractor he was working for was horrible. He was just laid off the same day as I was driving out to see him. We had already made anniversary plans. We had a great anniversary despite him being laid off. He had pre paid for almost everything. He believed and I believed that he would be right back to work. Its now been over a week though. I'm back in our home state and hes still 800 miles away. He just paid rent for anohter week and says hes giivng it until friday to find work. If he doesn't find work then hes coming home and he will do unemployment for that state then unemploymnet for our own state. I find myself hoping he doesn't get work and having a strong intuition he won't because of so many other people out of work too. Not that I don't have confidence in him. I also want him home with me so bad. On our state unemployment he can go to school though his work and gt extra $ per week. We were able to live comfortably on his monthly unemplyment even without the extra $$. We are going through bankrupcy right now too. We also owe his mom $3100. I told him Id rather him come home and redo our food stamps/medicaid, get bankrupcy finalized, keep paying our debts we are keeping down(cars), pay his mom $600 per month and he can take aclass at his work to make himself more valuable. Then he can go back to work in the state he wants to move us too when there is like 50-70 calls on the jobline again, our bankrupcy will be finalized, cars paid down some more, his mom paid off and we would be abel to move within a few months of him working out there.
But his pride is so strong that hes continuing to show up at the hall to get a job before others on the list that are before him (hes # 97) get there. There is a chance he can go to work before others if he has called on a job and no one else takes it. Hes says hes been 1 person away from getting a job twice.
I just wnt him home so bad. After seeing him for our anniversary for almost a week, I'm having a hard time being without him. Especially because hes not working right now and our son is having surgery next Tuesday.
I think he really doesn't want to be living at his partns, so thats one reason he is sticking with his pride