08-22-2012, 07:48 PM
Join Date: Aug 2012
| | Future Husband Being Picky in Job Hunt
My fiance and I had been dating for two years before I got accepted to a grad school across the country. Our plan was always that he would give me a year to transition back into studying full-time, quit his job, relocate to my city, find a job and we'd get married.
I remember we were both happy about the prospect of finding new work, because while he liked the company he worked for, he felt overqualified, unchallenged and there was no chance for professional growth (he has a master's degree and was basically an administrative assistant).
A year has come and he's weeks from making the big move; he's given notice to his current employer, has been applying online to companies for the past six months, but has received no prospects. Recently, his supervisor forwarded his resume to one of her contacts in my area, and he received an invitation for an informal interview.
To me, it seems like a perfect fit for him: it's in a field he studied in grad school for an organization that does meaningful work. However, he seems hesitant to follow up on the lead because there are duties of the job that he's less thrilled about.
I want to be supportive of his professional goals; Lord knows he deserves to be happy at work. But I also worry that he's not being realistic - about what a fulfilling job/career looks like, about how long it will take him to get another job lead, and about how uncomfortable it's going to be living off my financial aid indefinitely.
How can I voice my concerns without him feeling like I don't care about his career goals?