Financial Problems in MarriageWhen financial times are tough, it adds to the stress we deal with on a daily basis. This section is for talking about how financial problems affect our relationships and ways to cope.
I am FUMING right now.. and as I have no one else to talk to except my kids.. i thought best to bring it here.
At 8:30 this morning the water company showed up to disconnect my water. We have no money.. NOTHING.. until friday, pay day. I have 3 dollars in my purse, and since my H closed all of our accounts when I threatened to leave, I can't even post date a check or use a debit card.
2 weeks ago when he got paid he told me he paid this bill. When they disconnected our water this morning I called him at work. Turns out he spent that money on a night at the strip club. Thats right.. he fessed up!... but meanwhile our kids can't take baths.. I cant even cook meals!! I'm so friggin p*ssed right now, I could just leave and never look back.
only thing I have worth pawning is his xbox 360.. and WOW I can not even imagine the fireworks when he came home tonight! .... Last time he went on a "spending binge" I got a title loan on his pick up (it's in my name) .. and we are still paying on that... I don't know if I could even get enough for his xbox to pay and get it turned back on...
Water is still off.. I have gone over to my best friends house and filled up empty milk gallons with water for us.
I am sittin here looking at his xbox contemplating pawning yet. But if I were to do that he would flip out and say "we could pawn off your damn computer."
I use the computer for my school work, so It's not an option. But he isn't allowed on it, so it p*sses him off when I am on it.
I told my friend I want to just leave, she left her H five years ago. Took her kids to a shelter. The only problem with a shelter is, after a week you have to find somewhere to go if your not being extremely abused. Where would I go after a week????
I haven't spoken to the attorney again, because any more advise, or whatever through him, I would need to put down a retainer fee. I have nothing
I have been looking for jobs, but this economy is horrible.. there is nothing out there hiring.. unless i want to sign up for the army!
Yeah, he said will have to wait until monday. He gets paid tomorrow, but the utility company is closed by the time he gets off work and cashes his check. So I guess he is planning on keeping the water off til monday? UGH...
My kids are going nuts today... I think I am just frustrated with the whole situation here, and its rubbing off on them. They are constantly screaming and yelling.. I just want to bawl and hit the wall hysterically.
I pawned his xbox and the video camera to pay for the water bill... told him if he wasn't going to be a responsible adult.. someone around here had to be
He was P*SSED!! Called me every name in the book.. but hey my kids have running water now.
Next weekend my kid's are going out of town for a week with my parents. I have scheduled this time to meet with some people who may be able to donate me money to move out. Because the situation here is getting worse.. soon we will be going through this with all our utilities. I can't have my kids living in an unstable environment like this.
I had a job interview this morning.. which went GREAT. Should get a call from them next week.. so *cross fingers*. H has no idea about this possible job.. and as far as I'm concerned he doesn't need to know Just like I don't need to know where our money goes.....