Re: Husbands low income
That sucks. I got a pysch degree in 07. Even when I was finishing out my last semester I knew that degree was going to get me nowhere unless I got a Master's or Ph.D. Which I had absolutely no interest in doing.
Went into nursing for the job security and options. Wish I had done that before getting the psych degree but already having a degree helped somewhat. I never actually wanted to BE a nurse, I just wanted to go into a field where I wouldn't really have to worry about getting a job or be unemployed for months or years if I lost one. It's hard work though and you have to be motivated to get through it (school AND nursing).
You should probably sit down with him, tell him how you really feel if you haven't, and maybe talk about him getting into a career field. Could be health care, something in computers/IT, etc. Maybe look at industries with growing career opportunities and finding something he might be interested in.
The only thing I would caution is if he DOES go back to school, which if he's 30 he should, look at private AND public schools and try to find out how graduates of those programs do when it comes to finding jobs and if they offer assistance with finding employment.
But ya you need to decide what you both want and set some timelines.
"The one who is most willing to walk away from the relationship, is the one who controls the relationship."